Post # 1
One of my friends did a boudoir shoot and gave her husband the album for his wedding present. She got diamond earrings. I’d say he definitely got the raw end of the deal there. No offense to anyone who does this, but is there anyone else who would feel weird about giving this as a gift? My future hubby loves when I dress up, but I think he’d feel like why would he need to look at pictures when he has the real thing? And, I’d hate to think when I’m older, out of shape (hopefully not), and less youthful looking, that he’d keep that as his keepsake of how good I used to look. Your thoughts?
Post # 3
I’m doing one for my Fiance. He goes out of town a lot for work, so I want to give him something that he can take with him to remind him of what’s waiting for him at home.
He’s asked me for a while to send him sexy pics, but I’d rather have pro quality ones than something I just snap myself.
I will also be getting him a kilt made with his family tartan.
Post # 4
i did boudoirs and gave them as a wedding present. he didn’t get me anything but we had already said we weren’t doing gifts, so i wasn’t expecting anything anyway and certainly wasn’t disappointed – i loved seeing the look on his face!
we’re a long distance couple and only see each other maybe one weekend a month so he loved them. he really doesn’t have the “real thing” there with him, so for our situation especially it was a great gift idea.
Post # 5
These things differ from couple to couple. It’s hard to say who got the raw end of the deal (and kind of premature to judge), when both items are thoughtful gifts from a loving partner. In perspective, a pair of diamond earrings could be thought of too impersonal? It really depends on the personality of each partner. If boudoir is not your thing, don’t do it~
I don’t see anything wrong about having mementos of your youth that both of you could appreciate (all the while STILL loving your body as you age).
Post # 6
My Fiance is always asking for sexy pics- seriously this is a guy’s fantasy to have pics of his woman. You will not always be together every day, and it’s great for him to have something of you to fantasize as opposed to alternatives…
Post # 7
I gave my Darling Husband a boudoir book a watch. He liked the watch but LOVED the book. He was so into it and blushing and telling me how awesome the pictures are. I think he liked the idea that I went to such great lengths for him to do the book, (as opposed to the watch which I just ordered on line).
I love the idea that when I’m old and saggy I have that book to document how hot I once was.
Post # 8
@metalbride: I’m in the same boat! I wanted to do this for Christmas or my FI’s birthday in Jan, but I’m also working on loosing some weight and am not where I would like to be. My Fiance is going to be gone all of Dec, except for christmas, some of Jan and probably all of Feb and possibly longer to North Carolina for work… And even if my Fiance didn’t have to go on such extensive work trips I still probably would have a boudoir session. It’s a nice momento of this time in your life (as long as my future kids NEVER find it!)
Post # 9
@mrsbruff2b: I would say that it is you who is (ironically) being judgemental of my judgements that I am quite comfortable in admitting… as after all, this is my opinion that I have chosen to share. Yes, obviously, it depends on each couple and as I am rather surprised that so many people appear to do this, I was wondering if there is anyone else like me who doesn’t quite get it. I respect whatever anyone wants to do–I’d certainly not tell them what not to do. Personally, even with a future husband that travels a lot, it’s something I’d never be interested in doing and was curious if there was anyone else out there who felt the same way. Obviously you don’t, and that’s fine. But don’t pretend to be taking the high road when it comes to “judging”, as after all, you are on a wedding site that is based upon the concept of soliciting opinions and judging each other’s.
Post # 10
@fembride045: Of course you are welcome to an opinion, but when you preface with “no offense” that usually implies the opposite. I was offering my perspective on your position against boudoir as a wedding gift, engaging in discussion if you will, and find it pretty rude and rather snappy of you to insinuate that I am being condescending. Perhaps it is the way you framed the question that calls for many brides to become defensive (take a look at the replies).
Asking for opinions (as you say you are) should ellicit answer with depth and explanation to further discussion. When you’re simply saying “it’s weird” without elaborating, I find that judgemental.
I would’ve liked to see your suggestions on alternative gifts (what you were considering giving your Fiance on the wedding day) or even explore further WHY you feel weird about boudoir images on the wedding day?
Is it because it is boudoir, or is it because in your opinion, it is not a good enough gift on the wedding day (as say, a pair of diamond earrings)? Also, have you asked your hubby how he feels about it? (Not asking you to answer, but you said “I think”.)
Post # 11
I love the idea, I might be doing this as a gift for my fiance
Post # 12
I did a boudoir shoot for Darling Husband…I also got him a Coach wallet, groom’s cake/custom topper, and custom cufflinks.
I didn’t want to give him only the photos and he knew I was taking the pictures so I wanted him to have a surprise gift as well.
Post # 13
I started off doing a boudoir shoot for my future hubby, because I knew he’d love it and because we will only get to see each on weekends until we move to a new city next summer. But really, it turned into something for myself. I’ve struggled with self-esteem and body image since I was a kid, and worked really hard to lose weight and get in shape, but I was still really self-conscious. Doing the pictures made me feel amazing, and it was such a boost for my self-esteem, one which I badly needed. So it was almost like a present for me too 🙂
Post # 14
@mrsbruff2b: First of all, I was being facetious when I said that I think she got the better gift. Secondly, reread what I said. I did not call boudoir shots “weird”, but rather that I would feel weird giving it as a gift. I think it is well explained why I feel this way and as I said, was interested in seeing those who share this opinion, since I had never realized so many people do this.
As to your “point” that many brides have become defensive, I have yet to see that in this thread. Actually, I think people are explaining why it was a good gift for their husbands and I respect that, though again, it’s not something I would be interested in and I know neither would my Fiance. I can certainly appreciate comments like the one above, that is was a gift more for the bride to feel sexy and beautiful, and that’s never a bad thing. I seriously doubt, however, that there is no one on these boards who feels similarly that it’s not something that they would be interested in giving to their husband as a wedding gift.
And since you asked, personally, I don’t think wedding gifts are necessary from the bride and groom. The gift is the love we share and the commitment we’re making for the rest of our lives together. Further materialization of this may be nice, but not something necessary for me or my Fiance.
Post # 15
I’m doing one for my Fiance, because it’s more than just something to look at. I have horrible, horrible self-esteem issues, and I never let anyone take my picture, and we usually fight over my camera because I’m trying to delete pictures he has taken of me. It’s kind of me acknowledging that he thinks there is something special about me, even if I have trouble seeing it.
Post # 16
I’m pretty sure I’m going to do boudoir photos as a gift for Fiance. I just really like the idea of giving him some smokin’ hot photos of myself in excellent lighting and with cellulite and blotchy skin conveniently erased, and that’s pretty much all there is to it. 😀