Post # 1
I did this under a new account so fiance doesn’t see this.
I’ve been seriously toing with the idea of doing a boudour photo shoot and giving my fiance a little black book as a wedding present. A little background: do to our religious background we have never done anything sexual. He hasn’t even seen me in a bikini (only because he hates swimming). This would be something completely new to him. Our wedding night will be the first time he sees me in sexy lingerie.
I’ve read some posts that the guys reaction was that they weren’t too impressed… some seemed to indicate it was because the guy felt it wasn’t special as he sees it all the time so to speak.
Do you bees think my fiance would enjoy a little black book? This is totally outside my normal comfort zone but I if he would love it then it would be worth the price and uncomfortableness.
Post # 3
I thought about it and asked my FI if he would like it. We’re long distance the majority of the year so we don’t see each other often. He said it would be weird. Like what do you do with them? It’s not like he’s just going to stare at a picture of me especially after we’re married and I’m there all the tIme. Any what if someone else found them? I agreed with him after he explained it. Your fiancé may love it but it wasn’t for us.
Post # 4
i totally agree. i had his same convo with my FI today. We were discussing what you would actually do with them…. Hide them away in a drawer? I don’t know… Seems like a not very good use of money.
and he’s gonna wanna look at your and touch you when you get married not a 2d you?
Post # 5
My mum did this for my dad and it was something he very much liked. I’ve seen the photos, and I think it’s something neat to do. It’s not as much about being sexy, it’s about the artistic and aesthetic nature of the photos. They are beautiful, and you only show as much skin as you’re comfortable with.
Post # 6
- Wedding: February 2014 - Kentucky Center for the Performing Arts
I thought this was a great idea…at first. But FI says hell no. He doesn’t want a photographer looking at me half naked…woman nor man lol. So I assume if I went behind his back to surprise him he might be a bit pissed. Since you are kind of religious I am not sure your FI would want another person seeing you in such a way even though they can be done tastefully and photographers are professionals.
Post # 7
I am doing this for my fiancé! It’s a gift to me just as much as it is to him!
I think it can be a really exhilarating, self confidence boosting thing to do!
Post # 8
I don’t understand why people are so ashamed about doing boudoir shoots…. I think it is more for the girl than it is for the guy! It’s designed to make you feel gorgeous AND see for yourself that you ARE gorgeous!
Post # 9
I’ve been working so hard to look good for this wedding I want it documented! I’m going to look back on them when I’m an old lady & show my grand kids what a babe I was 😉
Post # 10
Thank you all for the advice.
To make it less risky I just went ahead and asked my fiance what he thought. He had to think for a minute or two (mostly due to cost) and then decided he would really enjoy something like this. Especially for when he or I are on travel. I’m glad I just went ahead and asked him.
Post # 11
@thoughtsonthisidea: I’m doing this! My FI doesn’t need anything, so I’m sure he’ll want these! I’m doing them in July about 3 months before the wedding, and it’s way out of my comfort zone, but I’m so excited or them, because I know he’ll love them!