Post # 1
Okay, firstly, did I spell that right? Gah! Keep getting confused!
Anyway. FH and I have been discussing wedding gifts for each other. He got me a necklace to wear in the wedding (I made him tell me cause I have to know whether to buy a necklace!), but I’ve been torn on what to get him. He doesn’t need/want a watch. Cufflinks are too formal for our wedding and he doesn’t normally wear french cuff shirts. He just isn’t a gift kind of guy.
So ever since I heard about doing a boudoir album as a gift I knew that he would absolutely LOVE that. But it’s scary sounding! 🙂 I’m pretty overly modest/shy, so the thought of wearing even just lingerie is a little scary, much less goin any further. I did look into it a bit, and there’s a photographer around here who does it for $300. Just need to talk to them and find out what all that includes.
But what do you think? Are you gonna do it, or did you? Should I? Is it really as scary as it sounds? How does it usually go? Any tips? Any really good shots you recommend getting? What the hell do I wear? Anything I didn’t think to ask?
Post # 3
I did them and can’t wait to do them again. It’s the most confidence boosting thing you can do for yourself.
My DH loved them so much he has one of the pics as the wallpaper on his phone.
Have a few drinks to loosen up – your photographer should be able to guide you through poses so you don’t look silly.
I got my outfits at VS and Frederick’s but you can wear anything – if you’re self concious, wear one of his button down shirts or a jersey of his.
Post # 4
I really wanted to do them, but DH was really against it. He didn’t want a stranger to be looking at me half or fully un-clothed, even if the photographer was a woman and completely professional. I guess for him it was just something he’s not comfortable with.
For you, since you know he will love it, I ditto the wine and just have fun!!
Post # 5
Oh, I so want to do it maybe I will do it for our one year anniversary! I have always wanted to feel like a model!!
Post # 6
i definitely am going to do it before the wedding and give as a gift to him! i’m a little nervous and unsure as of yet to what i’ll wear exactly, but mrsleopard i saw your pics on another post and they ARE STUNNING! GORGEOUS! haha, i think a cocktail before will be a must!
Post # 7
thanks krissybee! i had a great photographer who was also skilled at retouching 😉
Post # 8
Mrsleopard, I have been wondering about if they generally do retouching. I have been toning up and I feel like I care about that less and less, but if I saw something that I wished had been retouched after the fact, I fear it would be very un-confidence boosting. Either way, I’m really excited to do it, but I know I’ll be extremely giggly and awkward at first.
Post # 9
I’m looking forward to it. I’m scheduled for a June shoot and it will be my one year anniversary gift to my husband. He wasn’t too into the idea until I showed him some inspiration pictures that are very tasteful so he could see it isn’t all about sex and nudity.
I would suggest that you look up some of the photographers other bees have used (check the wiki) and check out their portfolios. It should give you some inspiration on attire that you may not have thought of but that you would feel comfortable in. I’ve seen some where the bride’s veil is used (typically a longer veil so more fabric) and I thought is was a pretty neat idea that I wouldn’t have considered before. Also, some of the photographers websites should have some do’s and don’ts listed to help you get a feel for best practices.
Post # 10
I’m totally 100% doing it. There is a photographer based out of Columbus, OH whose blog I STALK. I’m keeping it a surprise from my fiance. I seriously doubt he’d have a problem with it, especially when he sees the results. I’ve read a lot of testimonials and none have regretted doing it.
By the way, if you’re interested in the name of the particular photographer I’d be happy to give it to you (or anyone else interested). She does marathon sessions all over the country.
Post # 11
mine retouched the 10-12 that i ended up choosing. you should see the difference! she didn’t take off pounds but she smoothed my bulges.
also get a tan – it’s amazing how much of a difference that makes it the pics.
Post # 12
I want to do it, but when I mentioned it to my FI he wondered why he needed the pictures when he has the real thing.
I’ve decided against doing it for a wedding present, but think it’s a great anniversary gift idea for us!
Post # 13
@lilneko69 & lovelerae:
I’m not doing them for similar reasons to both of yours. My fiance would be uncomfortable with it, and I don’t think he’d enjoy them as much as I’d hope since by the time he’ll get the album, he’ll have the real thing.
Post # 14
I wanted to do it, but it just didn’t fit into our budget – that plus I don’t really know how my fiancee would react to them. I mean, I know he would like them, but then what would he do with them? I think he would feel like lovelerae’s FI: I can just look at you, not pictures of you! That plus the cost helped me rule it out. Maybe for an anniversary, though!
Post # 15
I DIYed them for Valentine’s day. It was awkward and I probably wouldn’t do it again, but he seemed to enjoy it!
Post # 16
You should definitely do it if you are thinking about it. I was super nervous and thought it would super awkward, but it wasn’t at all. I was suprised at how easily I just walked right out in my lingerie (maybe it was the glass of wine I had?). But that also might have to do with my photographer being super easy to talk to and making me feel comfortable. But the photos turned out amazing – I couldn’t believe that it was me in the pictures!
@EAQ219 – I think I used the photographer you are talking about. She was great – you will love her! Let me know if you have any more questions about her.