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Bought a dress for my mother who is not interested in the wedding.

posted 2 years ago in Family
  • poll: Is the dress I picked out for my mother to wear to my wedding too revealing?
    Yes, a Mother of the Bride should be more covered up! : (4 votes)
    17 %
    Yes, if only so that she doesn't appear too "flaky" compared to the Mother of the Groom. : (4 votes)
    17 %
    No way, Mother of the Bride should wear whatever she feels good in! : (16 votes)
    67 %
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    Frugal Bride    July 17, 2010   Ontario, Canada

    I found an amazing deal on a Badgley Mischka dress and purchased it for my mother. My mom is not at all interested in my wedding, and I am hoping that having a new beautiful designer dress for the big day might give her a bit more reason to look forward to it. But now I'm wondering if perhaps it was not such a good idea, because now she will be obligated to wear what I picked out as a surprise, rather than being able to pick out a dress herself. Do you think that it was a nice idea, or did I just take away her freedom to find her own dress?

     

    Secondly, my mother is a relatively young mother of the bride (46) and often dresses chic/trendy. How many people out there think that the dress that I picked out for my mother is too "young", as opposed to the typical "mother of the bride" dresses?

     

    (I should mention that my mother's "bust" is pretty well non-existent. She will not be showing any cleavage in this dress, just chest and bare shoulders and back.)

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    SaraFoxy0328    03/28/2010   Dallas, TX

    To be honest, it's really hard to tell from the pictures.  I can't see how it lays on her body, which will definitely make a difference.  Sorry I can't be more help, maybe someone else has more of an imagination than I can muster.  ;)

     
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    Tulip61110    June 11, 2010   Philadelphia

    I don't think the dress is too young at all.  Whether it's too revealing I think will probably depend on how well endowed she is up top.

    I think it was a nice idea to get it for your mom.

     
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    JoJo Bananas    August 21, 2010   Santa Cruz, CA

    I agree - it's hard to say...

     
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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    I think it's fine. As long as your mom has the appropriate undergarments on and isn't squishing out of it, she won't look ridiculous.

    My mom is 52 and wore a one-shoulder "young" style dressed and looked great. Her style in general is not what meshes with typical MOB dresses anyways.

    My mom was really excited to pick out her own dress. But i know her taste and if i'd come home with that and wrapped it all up and said, "i bought you this b;c i thought you would love it. It's for the wedding but i understand if you want to pick something else out. i saw it and just had to get it for you", i know she'd have been hoenst with me about whether or not she wanted to wear it. She certainly wouldn't have worn it JUST because i got it for her, but likely b/c she loved it, too. You know your mom. Present it to her as an option, not as a requirement.

    But pshaw, moms can totally pull off dresses like that =-]

     
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    littlemissmoo    July 18, 2010   London, UK

    It's really hard to say without seeing it on someone but I think it looks fine. Maybe give it to her as a present but don't say it's specifically for the wedding and let her decide if she wants to wear it to the wedding or keep it for another occasion?

     
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    nonimouse12    July 24, 2010  

    Ditto Tulip, as long as she's not busting out of the top, I think it's fine!

    ETAL: Oops, just read the poll and not the post. I agree that you should present it as an option and not that she has to wear it. I'd go with the "I saw it and thought of you and got so excited..." method.

     
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    LegallyBlondeBride    July 30, 2010   Chapel Hill, NC & Houston, TX

    I think its cute. Who couldn't get excited about a dress like that? :) Hopefully that will liven her up. If either one of you thinks its too revealing you could always get like a black lace bolero to put over it.

     
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    fabulouslyengaged    8/1/09  

    I think it would be okay. It would depend on how it looks on her

     
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    noodlefish    November 27, 2010  

    So, I think it looks great.  My mom will be 46 when I get married, too. We have been looking high and low for something classy, appropriate, but not grandma-ish.  I say as long as that fits your mom correctly it will be just fine. 

     
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    Soon2BNJersey    September 10, 2011   Destination Wedding - Ocho Rios, Jamaica

    It looks okay as look as its a good fit and she feels comfortable.

     
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    cardigan    January 7, 2011   Austin, TX

    I think it's a great dress and I think it was very thoughtful of you to purchase something for her!

     

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