- 4 years ago
- Wedding: March 2014
So, one of FI’s friends is getting married soon, and FI is a groomsman in the wedding party.
I’m on pretty good terms with this guy’s fiance (but I wouldn’t call her a friend, maybe an aquaintance?), we talk wedding when we see each other.
I saw her last night at a BBQ, and she and I got on the subject of registries. Now, I received an invite for her surprise bridal shower (and didn’t spill the beans!), but this girl is sharp and figured out when her shower is – she’s just being a good sport and going with the surprise.
But she got on the topic of fine china, and it was a mini vent about how her mother and grandmother forced her to put china on her registry, even though they don’t own any themselves. (The two of them are being wedding tyrants and making her wedding planning unpleasant and expensive, that’s a whole story unto itself)
She needed to register for 21 settings to accomodate her entire family! She was obviously very upset about it and didn’t really want to get the china on her registry – she would rather have kitchen gadgets. She was grumbling that of course, since she had the china on there, she also had to put on the serving pieces – gravy boat, milk and sugar service, serving platter.
Now, I didn’t say it to her… but I had already bought her the serving platter from her registry.
I was a little hurt to hear how she would prefer to have something else besides the china on her registry! I actually woke up at 5 am, just thinking about it. I was so happy to have gotten that task out of my way – the shower is in two weeks! Oh well…
So, once I get it in the mail, I’m going to return it to the store and buy her something she actually wants. No point in giving her something she’s made pretty clear she’s displeased with receiving in the first place.
I’m OK with that – it’s really not a big deal (really! I want her to be happy!), but I wish she hadn’t said those things to me!
I am sure I’m making her sound like a brat, but she’s really more like a person who can’t say “no,” sometimes when she really should (if she didn’t want it, she should have never even put it on and told her mother no, we dont want that)
It’s not so bad, I really want to get her something she’d actually enjoy.
It also reminded me not to complain about my registry (not that I do that at all). My situation is a little different – FI and I worked together on it, and only put on the things we actually would love to own (and can afford ourselves!), and haven’t allowed anyone to see or help with said registry.
As compensation for my troubles, I am going to find the most embarassing bow and put it on her gift, for use with the traditional shower bow hat.
I am thinking: gigantic pink feathers.
OK, Thanks for listening! /end vent