Post # 1
I’m so mortified to be asking but I’m really rather clueless when it comes to men’s fashion.
We just went to Last Call Neiman Marcus to find a suit for a charity event we are attending on Sunday, and in typical form, Fiance managed to find the most expensive suit (a black Armani, two button) that he loved. It looks great on him, and since he never buys any pricy clothing items for himself, we decided to splurge, and we’re getting it for a good (not great, sigh) price. It seems like something he’ll wear more than once.
In particular, I was wondering if, with the right shirt and a bow tie, it would be considered a tux and he could wear it to our wedding? Our wedding is black tie so if this is not appropriate, we can always rent, but I wanted to hear your opinions.
What makes a tux a tux and a suit a suit and can one be changed into the other with the right accessories? Does a tux have to have the stripe going down the leg? What is distinctive about the tux in comparison to the suit?
Clueless bee here that can’t wait for your answers.
Post # 3
I am not the best person to answer this question by far, many lovely bees will have better answers. But as far as I know:
Tuxes often have some sort of satin stripe on the pants and thier shirts will not have a pocket.
Sometimes the fabric can be different, though I believe both do come in wool and polyester.
Post # 4
There is nothing stopping anyone from wearing a really nice suit to a wedding v.s a tux… as long as all the grooms men have the same I doubt anyone will ever notice a thing. unless you are having a black tie wedding
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
If you are having a black tie wedding, the groom must be in a tuxedo. You are asking all your guests to wear one, so he needs to be in one. Tuxes have satin lapels; suits do not. Tuxes have satin stripes on the pants; suits do not. You’ll still need to rent him a tuxedo (or change your dress code).
Post # 6
when we are invited to a “black tie”, my husband wears a black suit – unless hes receiving an honor from the queen herself we are not going to buy him a tux
Post # 7
@eloping: lol I agree. I never thought “black tie” meant my date had to rent a tux, I’ve always thought a suit was appropriate.
I would think that a black suit *could* be appropriate for the groom at a black tie wedding if the rest of his ensemble is formal, for instance, he should wear a vest or cummerbun. Honestly, as a guest, I could never pay close enough attention to discern a black suit from a tux, or if I noticed, I certainly wouldn’t be offended. Maybe I’m just low class, though
Personally, I prefer suits, anyway.
Post # 8
Thanks, ladies. That really cleared it up for me. We’ll still rent one, then.
@les105: I don’t think you’re low class at all lol. I honestly don’t notice these things and although I know lots about women’s fashion (it’s a hobby of mine) I would not know the first thing about suits or men’s shoes or anything like that. And I wouldn’t notice it either.
Post # 9
@mrsSonthebeach: I agree. The bridea and groom should dress according to the specified dress code. The guests don’t have to live up to the same standard but the host should.
OP: tuxes have satin lapels and pant stripes while suits don’t and generally look fancier.
Also, when we were looking for a tux for Darling Husband for the wedding we actually found it was cheaper to buy a tux from a boutique then rent it from some of the chain rental places.
Post # 10
@Meowkers: Thanks, lady. We definitely want to follow the dress code, i just didn’t know what the actual difference was. But there is a big one.
I think we will look into a boutique too, although Fiance is much less likely to wear a tux to any other event but his wedding. But maybe if the price is right, he’ll consider.
Post # 11
@LuckyJuls: No problem. We had our groomsmen buy the tuxes as well instead of renting because it was cheaper. Some of them have told us that they have already worn theirs again for other weddings. If you’re in Southern Califonia I can give you the name of the place we got the tuxes.
Also, we were looking for reasons to re-wear the tux so we hosted a “Black Tie Pajama Party” after the wedding. It was a fun reason for Darling Husband and his groomsmen to re-wear their tuxes. and hilarious to see people combine Black Tie and PJs.
Post # 12
There are also tuxedos available on overstock.com…that’s where we bought our suits 🙂
Post # 13
Have you checked out http://www.blacktieguide.com? It was really helpful when FH and I went to a Mardi Gras ball a few years ago, i.e. very VERY formal white tie. I loved that they had photos and broke everything done into the composite elements. My FH is not a suit and tie kind of guy, so white tie was a huge thing for him. We ended up going to Brooks Brothers and spent the cash on the real deal plus tailoring. But, you can get a really nice tux for way less if you shop around. I highly recommend tailoring, though, if you go the purchasing route, it is definitely worth it and usually doesn’t cost too much for men’s clothing.
If your FH isn’t too into black tie, try showing some James Bond movies and point out how sexy it makes the actors. 😉