Bought my boyfriend a promise ring…

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@rodeoidahochic: 

           I don’t think its “weird” per say because there are always new trends/reoccuring trends happening all the time. I can’t say I ever bought one for my fiance because hes not really the ring type of guy to begin with.  He’s not really even wanting a wedding band but because he knows it would be nice to wear on occasions out, hes willing to get one (can’t wear it to work as he works in a plant with a stict no jewellry policy so it doesn’t get caught in the machines) 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

How old are you two?

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

@GoldfishPie:  According to older posts she is in her teens. Probably 10th or 11th grade in high school.

 

Post # 7
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Honey bee

@rodeoidahochic:  Did he ever express wanting one? Does he wear jewerly? How old are you two?

My DH (BF at the time) bought me a promise ring the Christmas after I graduated high school (we were 18 and 19). We had been together for 3 years at that point, but wanted to wait to get married (we waited 7 years). I still wear it on my right hand. 

While I have never heard of a woman buying a man a promise ring, it’s not that weird, as long as he is into wearing jewelry and is open to the idea. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I’ll be honest and say I’ve never really understood the whole promise ring phenomenon. Of all the couples I knew that exchanged them in high school, not even one of them is still together, let alone married (I’m in my mid-20’s now).

Does your boyfriend think it’s weird? If not, that’s really all that matters, I suppose.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I think it’s a beautiful thought but why are you buying him one and not the other way around? Also I feel that most guys that age won’t want to wear a ring. I had a promise ring from one of my HS boyfriends and while at the time i loved it I look back now and kind of giggle At myself for thinking about marrige at that age (I’m 27 now and mey my FI after college – a few boyfriends later from the one who have me the ring 😉 ) I’m not diminishing your feelings or your love for each other, just enjoy being young and having fun together there will be plenty of time later in your life to enjoy the symbolism of a ring! 

Post # 11
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Honey bee

@applecat:  Didn’t realize it was a “phenomenon,” at least 7 years ago when I received it. I actually don’t know any one else in my circle of friends/acquantiances who received a promise ring. My DH bought it as a sweet gesture (not at my request) and we are still happily together and married (25 and 27 now). 

I guess it works for some and not for others.  Smile

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I bought one for my boyfriend and he absolutely loves it. 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

It’s sweet if you and him want to wear them of course. But if he never said anything about wanting it, be prepared that he might think it’s weird since guys don’t normally wear jewelry like that.

I once lightly floated the idea with my husband when we were just dating at 19/20 and he said it was stupid haha. (We’re open, he wasn’t being mean 🙂 )He didn’t want people to think we were engaged and he doesn’t wear jewelry except his now wedding ring.

So it wasn’t for us, but if it works for other people that’s totally fine. 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Unless the two of you had previously discussed it, I think buying jewelry (especially promise jewelry) for a 16 year old boy is risky.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Don’t do it. Practically no 16 or 17 year old guy is ready for an actual life commitment. Especially coming from a girl, it comes off as incredibly clingy and intense.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

They’ve been together two years. Yeah, they’re young, but so what? Seems like she wants to give him a nice gift to show how much she cares about him and can see a future with him. 

He might think it’s creepy or he might think it’s totally awesome and sweet. Who knows?

I personally never understood the concept of promise rings. I just take them to mean “I’m really serious about you” rather than “I’m going to marry you”. It seems to be what they symbolize today. 

Good luck OP! 

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