Bought my dress and my FI doesnt like it!

posted 3 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
432 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

It is your dress! If you love it and and love the way you feel in it, than who cares what your man says. Will he really be that concerned with your dress when you walk down the aisle?

Post # 4
453 posts
Helper bee

@jbbs1222:  What’s not to love? It’s beautiful! 

Is it a modesty/religious/cultural thing? Does he not think you should wear strapless? 

I mean, all wedding dresses are gorgeous (well, most!) but this one fits that category. I’m not sure what he doesn’t like about it. Did he give you more input? Is he in the fashion industry? 

I mean, I understand you would be disappointed that FI doesn’t like your dress, but it’s also your day too and you need a dress that you love, he doesn’t have to wear it! That sounds a little bridezilla-y but, really, you’ll look wonderful and he probably won’t even remember what it looked like by the time you head down the aisle!

Post # 5
4134 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Well… I think it gorgeous. The buttons and bodice are stunning. I don’t think anone could look bad in that style.. it strikes me as universally flattering. I’m not sure what a man knows about fit, style and what flatters you best. Is he critical like this in general? : 

Post # 6
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Is “Punch him in the throat” a measured response? No? Darn…

I would have been REALLY upset if DH had said he hated my dress! But I’m sure he’ll love it on you when you’re walking down the aisle in it!

Post # 7
9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@jbbs1222:  Hm. I want to ask a “Captain Obvious” question. If you were okay with him seeing your dress, why wouldn’t you have brought him along to ensure you selected something you both like? This is just my opinion, but it is really your FI’s opinion only that matters on a dress – you want to look beautiful in his eyes (at least I assume) so why not include him in the process if you are open to him seeing it?

Of course your FI won’t say he doesn’t like it on the day and I’m sure he will act like he loves it because he will have no choice. No man with any sense in his head will tell his bride that she’s ugly. I just worry about the fact that you know he doesn’t like it – if he doesn’t think it looks good on a model, I don’t see why he would magically change his mind unless he’s pretending to for your benefit.

Post # 9
4576 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@jbbs1222:  He told you it’s too “boring”? Can we trade ;)? I got told to tone it down a LOT with my choice.

It’s a gorgeous dress…my SO would give his right arm for me to wear it!

Post # 10
2915 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

I will never understand why a guy would say something like this to his FI.

Post # 11
343 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think it’s beautiful! I wouldn’t worry because I think your FI would love the way you look in a trash bag on your wedding day. Once you’re all done up with hair/makeup/and accessories then he will feel completely different.

Post # 12
650 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I think it’s absolutely stunning!

I’m sure he’ll love it on you when he sees you in it – they always end up changing their mind the day of Wink

I was showing the FI a ton of different designs and he didn’t like any of them.   The only ones he liked were sheath and mermaid (mermaid I never liked.)  I actually ended up falling for a mermaid because they made me try at least one on at the boutique and I fell in love with it.   I think men tend to like the fitted body dresses in pictures but always end up loving what their bride chooses.

Post # 13
4941 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@jbbs1222:  Wow that is GORGEOUS! I showed DH a few pictures and had him pick out which he thought was my dress. The first that he elimated was my dress, he said it was ugly and too simple. I was hurt, but knew not to take it too seriously. 

On our wedding day he teared up during our first look and said that my dress was perfect and the most gorgeous he’d ever seen.

Bottom line: It’s your wedding dress, and if you love it then he’ll love it. Most men have awful fashion sense, so don’t take it too seriously honey. You could get married to him in a burlap sac, he’ll still think that you are the most beautiful woman in the world and think that your dress is perfect.  

Post # 15
9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@jbbs1222:  Doesn’t mean he won’t think it though, even if he doesn’t say it. Personally, and I think I stand alone here, I would never willingly go ahead with a dress I knew my FI hated. It is our day and I want to look my best to him. I don’t care if a bunch of folks on the internet like it – all I need is for him to love it. That’s just me though.

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