(Closed) Bought my Dress…Sad and Worried (pics)

posted 5 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Everyone and all the TV shows made me believe that I would have this big crying epiphany when I tried on “THE” dress. I had second thoughts because I didn’t have a big emotional reaction to the dress. My mom didn’t see it on me before I bought it, etc etc. The “perfect moment” I was led to believe would happen when buying a dress did.not.happen.

Now, I look at myself in my dress picture, I really, really love the dress. I didn’t “feel” it right in the moment of buying it. It was just a purchase to me. It doesn’t make it “not the one” becuase you didn’t experience a big crying… deal over it.

I can’t really see the details of your dress, but I personally love lace and it looks lovely to me. 

 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I think it’s ridiculous how everyone assumes that every bride will have a ‘moment’ with their dress. It’s a dress…a way overpriced piece of fabric! Some women do have that ‘feeling’ but I believe that a lot don’t as well. I didn’t…it’s just clothing. Do I love the colour (mine is my favourite colour purple)? Yes. Do I love the style? Yes. But in the end it is still just a dress and I know that my FH, although he wants me to have something that I like, really couldn’t care less!

Now ask me about the man I’m marrying and that’s a completely different story!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Forgot to start with…Your dress is gorgeous and looks great on you!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

It’s lovely! I think with the accessories, your hair and makeup done, your shoes, etc it will feel more exciting! I didn’t cry or scream or think “this is the only dress I ever could’ve chosen” but on my wedding day, it turned out wonderfully!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

Those shows are hyped up to the extreme. I think you look lovely. Try it on wih your veil and accessories and see if you feel more bridal. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I didnt buy “the” dress, because it was way over my budget lol

Instead, I bought a brides maid dress in white. I didnt love it, nor like it.  Finally, with less than 2 months before my wedding I bought a new dress, brand new from a girl who never wore hers for only $240! I love it!

I think the dress looks nice on you, but whats most important is how YOU feel. And if you truly do not feeling that great in it, you probably wont feel the great on your wedding day. But 4 months, you have lots of time!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@HappySky7:  +1.

When I bought my dress, I wasn’t floored by it. I even went to Kleinfeld’s expecting the epic moment of “this is THE dress!!!!” It didn’t happen. Everyone loved the dress on me, and I liked the dress. Like mentioned above, not every bride has that sob-inducing moment. 

Try to envision how your dress will look with the accessories, veil, and shoes as you’re walking down the aisle. That may help in convincing you this was the right decision. If anything, with the money you save, you can opt to buy things to glam it up like a brooch or blingy belt/sash.

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@TogetherThroughLife:  

The dress looks great on you, it is very flattering and elegant. However, if you did not have any excitement or wow moment, I think you felt pressured and rushed to buy one. If your budget allows, go to boutiques and try on other dresses, but do it by yourself, no Mom, no friends. If you get that wow moment, you will know that there is the “one” dress for you. You could then sell your dress and get a new one. If you do not get the wow feeling, then stick with your dress.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I think you look beautiful on your dress! I think reality shows like SYTTD make you believe that you will have a Wow moment, and also, they help elevate the pressure of finding the “perfect” dress. I didn’t have a moment like that, I just loved my dress and got it. Like other bees said, the most important think is that YOU like it and YOU feel good on it. It should make you feel beautiful, no matter if you had a crying moment or not.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

@TogetherThroughLife:  what veils did you try? There are so many. Cathedral, waltz, bubble, waist, flyaway, blushers, Juliet cap, birdcage, etc.  

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I actually cried in a dress I didn’t even like but because it seas the closest thing to what I wanted in my budget after 20+ dresses didn’t I luckky didn’t get talked inby tinting it cause on the way home I found my real dream dress for half price when I went back I was expecting more crying but nope no tears I did have a big smile and wanted to stay in it tho 

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Also I had huge dress regret untill I added a sleeve and second petti coat maybe you can try something like that with your dress! Sash jacket etc…

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