(Closed) Bouquet and garter: rig the contest or just hand ’em over?

posted 6 years ago in Traditions
  • poll: How should I work this?
    Call everyone up, but drop the bouquet right in MOH's hands : (2 votes)
    8 %
    Let the contest play out naturally (but then skip the put-the-garter-on thing to dodge awkwardness) : (20 votes)
    80 %
    Call MOH up and embarrass the crap out of her by handing her the bouquet : (1 votes)
    4 %
    Other? : (2 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
    3220 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I’d say just have a normal toss.

    Post # 4
    230 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    My Fi got the garter via slingshot at the last wedding we went to before he proposed. Everyone thought it was pretty funny. Most weddings around here don’t do the put-the-garter-on thing so they just threw the bouquet like normal but in my general direction.

    Post # 5
    735 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Speaking as a shy gal:

    Even if Fiance and I had been at a wedding the DAY before we got engaged – you know, when I was DYING for him to just ask already, we’d had the talk and decided that we wanted to get married, he’d asked my dad (my parents are TERRIBLE at keeping secrets) and he’d been indulging me and looking at rings for months – I’d have wanted to sink through the floor and vanish if my BFF had HANDED me her bouquet.  I’d have taken it as “Hey, it’s about time you two hurry up and get serious too!”

    Sure, the other guests will all chuckle – unless one of the girls REALLY WANTED to catch that flower toss – but I think you risk making the Maid/Matron of Honor uncomfortable if she really is shy and she’s been opposed to marriage prior to helping plan yours.

    Do the regular toss.  If one of the girls in a long term relationship catches the bouquet your new hubby (!!) can sling-shot the garter at her man.  Or he can still choose to send it right at your MOH’s guy… since he seems to be onboard with the idea of them getting hitched, and you don’t mention him being shy.

    Post # 6
    106 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    My best friend rigged their toss. They did the garter first, and her hubby aimed it at my now fiance. It pretty much landed on him. So then it was obvious that I should catch the bouquet. We line up, and her husband was directing her where to throw so that i catch it. Nobody else even tried to get it, since they all knew we are together. So I caught it, and surprise,I was the next to get engaged.

    Post # 8
    277 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I like the bouquet toss cause I think it’s a fun tradition if you don’t take it too seriously. When it’s ‘rigged’ for someone to catch it, it kinda takes the fun out of it for me. Like the rest of us were just props for a cute photo. So my vote is definately just do it and see let it play out how it does.

    Post # 9
    115 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    A friend of mine got married last summer. Her brother was proposing to his gf the next day so the bride walked over and handed her the bouquet. She had no idea what was going on. 

    Post # 10
    1426 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I’m not a fan of this tradition, but the idea of rigging it does not appeal to me at all. While one may think this is cute and that the two involved would love it or find it amusing, you can’t really tell. They might really dislike that focus of attention on them. I know I would hate to have that pin-pointed on me. I’d just keep the tradition as is.

    Post # 11
    828 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    If the idea is that it’s by luck that you catch the bouquet/ garter and that that luck means that you will be the next to marry, then there’s no point in doing the toss if it’s rigged because there’s no luck involved.

    Plus if there is possibly more than one couple in attendance that might be engaged soon, it seems just rude to rig it not to mention the other single guests that you are pulling out of their seats to be basically be props.

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