Post # 1
I’m curious…who is doing the bouquet and garter toss and who is not? Or has anyone done or not done it and had regrets? I’m 42 and my groom is 43 (his second marriage), so the majority of our friends are in their mid-30s to early 40s and married. Therefore, it seems kind of silly to me. Plus, I think it can be embarrassing for single guests. I kind of feel like I’d rather spend the time just socializing, dancing, etc. with our friends and family, but I also tend to be traditional and don’t want to wish I had done it. I’d love to hear thoughts on this…
Post # 3
I’m definitely doing the bouquet toss, my group of friends seem to love it. We’re also doing the garter toss even though my FI thinks it’ll be embarrassing lol… I really don’t think you have to be in your 20s to do this! that being said I’m 24 and my fiancé will be just shy of 29 at the wedding
Post # 4
I am in my 20’s and not doing either. Personally those are two traditions that I would like to see die out.
Post # 6
We just did the bouquet. My family tried to pressure us into doing the garter toss, but I just find it awkward.
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- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
If you are into it and you know people attending the wedding will participate then go for it. We just don’t have enough single friends so it would feel like we were singling them out for not being married since many are in committed relationships, just not married. Plus the thought of one of his fraternity brothers carrying around my garter is just icky.
Post # 10
I was married at 27 and did neither. The bouquet toss bothers me because I don’t like the implication that single women are all desperately chomping at the bit to get married. Just seems really outdated and unfeminist.
And the garter toss is so cringeworthy. Nobody wants to see your groom rooting around under your dress; save the removal of each other’s undergarments for your hotel room.
Post # 11
We are skipping that tradition as most of our family/friends are married or in relationships. He has only 2 or 3 single friends and I have 1!! All my girls are married!! Lol.
Post # 12
@eocenia: I’d never heard that before. That definitely makes the tradition seem a little gross!
Post # 13
I am doing the bouquet but not the garter toss. Last wedding I went to the garter toss was weird and kinda nasty. I dont want to keep stopping the music for different things. I find it annoying.
Post # 14
We’re both in our mid-20s and we’re not doing either.
Post # 15
Do you think your friends will have fun with it, or would it be a flop? I think it depends on the energy of the room and your guests, you know? I don’t think it has to be determined by the age at all. And for the bouquet toss you could let all the ladies participate, not just the single ladies…that way you don’t have to “single” people out. In fact, I think that would make it more fun.
I am 27, and he’s 32 and we are skipping both traditions. I’d get too embarrassed because that’s just how I am. I don’t turn my nose up when other people do it, but I don’t like being “singled” out for the bouquet toss one bit.
Post # 16
I’ll be 33 on my wedding day and we’re doing the bouquet toss with a little twist. We’re including everyone (guys, girls, single, married, and in-between) and we’re giving away a movie date night (2 tickets, giftcard for snacks) to whoever catches it. We’re skipping the garter toss though.