Post # 1
Just a quick question!
I do realize that this question may be a little silly and that it may seem like stupid question but please remember that my wedding is in 7 weeks (Holy Cow!) and I am stressing out about every little detail at this point 🙂
At our wedding we want to do the bouquet and garter toss because it’s such a fun tradition!
However, we are having all real flowers at our reception (tulips and calla lillys) including the bouquet. I don’t really want to throw my real bouquet. Would it be tacky, and I will I offend anyone who catches it, by throwing a silk-flower bouquet?
The same thing goes for my garter. I just really like it and it’s partially made with lace from my Grandmother’s gown and I don’t want it thrown. Is a replacement garter okay?
This may sound nit-picky (but I am super detail-oriented) and many of you may be like is this a real concern?
But it is, I don’t want to offend anyone or be tacky by having a replacement bouquet and garter for the toss.
Would any of you be offended if you caught a replacement bouquet at a wedding?
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2014 - Scottish Rite Cathedral (New Castle, PA)
@March1stBride: Hmm…I think a replacement garter would be fine. I wouldn’t want to toss it if it had that kind of meaning either! As a guest, I don’t know that I would want to catch a silk flower bouquet though. Maybe pick up a real bouquet to toss, it could be just as cheap if you go to a grocery store or WalMart and just buy one of their off the rack bouquets and wrap it nicely. With that being said, I don’t typically participate in those traditions at weddings so my opinion may not be valid. 🙂
Post # 4
March1stBride– As far as have replacement things- TOTALLY acceptable in my book. You are paying maybe a lot of money for those things and if you want to cherish them, replacements are a great option.
As far as the garter toss, I am allllll for the silly, sexy, maybe even a little trashy part of the wedding. Ask yourself if you would think it was tacky to have replacement options? If your brain is screaming yes, maybe do a smaller less expesnive version of your own bouqet
Post # 5
I would hope that no one would be offended!
Can you please designate a bridal party member to ensure that no overzealous people (in my experience it is usually someone’s aunt…LOL) are trying to harass guests who choose not to participate? Being dragged up and humiliated into standing for a bouquet toss is pretty much the only thing–assuming the couple hasn’t chosen to starve their guests!–that can ruin a wedding for me.
Post # 6
@smg5281: Thanks for the opinion!
My fears with the bouquet was mostly that its a tulip bouquet and I don’t want the flowers to all break apart when I throw it. The florist told us that tulips are just not a durable flower (which is why we cannot use them in the corsages). But the calla lilly’s are supossed to be much sturdier flower maybe instead I could throw a small calla lilly bouquet?
Post # 7
When we had our wedding, I had my bouquet and the florist made me a “bokay” which was much cheaper and a few flowers tied together. My garter set also had one “real” garter and one “toss” garter. I wore the real one and when my husband took it off, he switched it with the toss one in his pocket. You could also just wear one on each leg. Have fun!
Post # 8
@MarriedToMyWork: Haha this made me laugh. I’ll keep that in mind! Participation in the bouquet toss will not be manditory 🙂
Post # 9
i’ve always known there to be a “toss bouquet” and a “toss garter” so you keep your originals. The toss bouquet is usually a smaller version of the brides bouquet, maybe like a bridesmaids bouquet. but if you’re worried ab the flowers falling apart, feel free to get a silk bouquet made. no one will know the difference!
Post # 10
@March1stBride: are you putting together your own bouquets or going through a florist? because my florist gave us a “throw away” bouquet.
If you are making your own, no its not tacky to use silk flowers, i wouldn’t want to throw my real bouquet either
Post # 11
@March1stBride: Everyone I have ever known has had a “toss” bouquet and garter, not their real ones. Most of the bouquets were real flowers, but simple and sturdier. Many florists even throw one in the package for free.
Definitely don’t toss anything you want to keep as a memento including your garter and bouquet.
Post # 12
@March1stBride: I did ALL the flowers for my wedding and made up a separate bouquet just for the toss. There was NO WAY under the sun that I was going to toss MY bouquet to some random girl. So yeah I think its ok to have a different bouquet just for the toss….but maybe make it a real flower one (smaller like a bridesmaid bouquet) if it fits in the budget??
Post # 13
It’s not tacky. People want to have the experience, not the original items.