Bouquet / Garter Toss….totally tacky or perfectly acceptable?

posted 3 years ago in Traditions
Post # 3
627 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Scottish Rite Cathedral (New Castle, PA)

@March1stBride: Hmm…I think a replacement garter would be fine. I wouldn’t want to toss it if it had that kind of meaning either! As a guest, I don’t know that I would want to catch a silk flower bouquet though. Maybe pick up a real bouquet to toss, it could be just as cheap if you go to a grocery store or WalMart and just buy one of their off the rack bouquets and wrap it nicely. With that being said, I don’t typically participate in those traditions at weddings so my opinion may not be valid. 🙂 


Post # 4
232 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

March1stBride–  As far as have replacement things- TOTALLY acceptable in my book. You are paying maybe a lot of money for those things and if you want to cherish them, replacements are a great option.

As far as the garter toss, I am allllll for the silly, sexy, maybe even a little trashy part of the wedding. Ask yourself if you would think it was tacky to have replacement options? If your brain is screaming yes, maybe do a smaller less expesnive version of your own bouqet


Post # 5
1974 posts
Buzzing bee

I would hope that no one would be offended!

 Can you please designate a bridal party member to ensure that no overzealous people (in my experience it is usually someone’s aunt…LOL) are trying to harass guests who choose not to participate?  Being dragged up and humiliated into standing for a bouquet toss is pretty much the only thing–assuming the couple hasn’t chosen to starve their guests!–that can ruin a wedding for me.

Post # 7
1719 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

When we had our wedding, I had my bouquet and the florist made me a “bokay” which was much cheaper and a few flowers tied together.  My garter set also had one “real” garter and one “toss” garter.  I wore the real one and when my husband took it off, he switched it with the toss one in his pocket.  You could also just wear one on each leg.  Have fun!

Post # 9
1248 posts
Bumble bee

i’ve always known there to be a “toss bouquet” and a “toss garter” so you keep your originals. The toss bouquet is usually a smaller version of the brides bouquet, maybe like a bridesmaids bouquet. but if you’re worried ab the flowers falling apart, feel free to get a silk bouquet made. no one will know the difference!

Post # 10
6525 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@March1stBride:  are you putting together your own bouquets or going through a florist? because my florist gave us a “throw away” bouquet.

If you are making your own, no its not tacky to use silk flowers, i wouldn’t want to throw my real bouquet either

Post # 11
965 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@March1stBride:  Everyone I have ever known has had a “toss” bouquet and garter, not their real ones. Most of the bouquets were real flowers, but simple and sturdier. Many florists even throw one in the package for free. 

Definitely don’t toss anything you want to keep as a memento including your garter and bouquet. 

Post # 12
1491 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@March1stBride:  I did ALL the flowers for my wedding and made up a separate bouquet just for the toss. There was NO WAY under the sun that I was going to toss MY bouquet to some random girl.   So yeah  I think its ok to have a different bouquet just for the toss….but maybe make it a real flower one (smaller like a bridesmaid bouquet) if it fits in the budget??  

Post # 13
441 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

It’s not tacky. People want to have the experience, not the original items.

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