Post # 1
OK, this sounds silly, but I’m worried that my bouquet might end up too big for me. I’ve seen wedding photos where the bride’s bouquet is the wrong size for her — either too teeny or too huge — and I’d like to avoid that look.
I mentioned that to the florist and she said ‘yes, of course,’ but I couldn’t tell if it really sank in. At the bridal shop, I picked up the silk bouquet that they give you to show how your dress looks with flowers, and it looked ridiculous: like I was holding a small tree. We had a good laugh about it, but now I wonder if I’ll be overwhelmed by a ‘standard’ bouquet size.
Also, typically the bride’s bouquet is bigger than the BM’s, but I’m considerably smaller than my maids and I don’t want a weird “Alice in Wonderland” incredible-shrinking-bride effect.
How did/will you ensure that your bouquets aren’t out-of-proportion for you and your maids? Is it OK to have Bridesmaid or Best Man bouquets that are NOT smaller than yours? Did anyone do this? How did it look?
Post # 3
Did your florist tell you how many flowers she was using in your bouquet?
Post # 4
I was concerned about the size of my bouquet. I am doing all peonies, and my florist gave me an option of doing a 12 or 20 peony bouquet. I told her I’d rather do 20, but explained to her that since I’m petite, I’d be worried that it would overwhelm me. She seemed to understand, and said we could discuss it closer the wedding when she can evaluate how big the peony blooms would be. I would definitely reiterate your concern to your florist.
As far as Bridesmaid or Best Man bouquets, I think it would look best to have their bouquets be smaller than yours. I don’t think I’ve ever seen them bigger than the bride’s.
Post # 5
my florist is actually the one that mentioned this concern to me, on our second consult when she brought our samples, she went through three different sizes and had me stand up in front of the mirror and walk around the house a lil so we could all get a feel for which one was the right size!
Fiance, me, and the florist alll agreed on the one we chose!
Post # 6
Can you find a picture of a bouquet you love and then count the blooms?
Post # 7
I wouldn’t do Bridesmaid or Best Man bouquets bigger than the bridal bouquet, but if they were the same size but in a different color and/or different flower, that might work. Perhaps do the same number of blooms in each but more filler in yours?
Post # 8
Funny I was worried about the same thing and thought it was just me. I saw picture where the bouquet was huge and I told my florist I didn’t want that, but also didn’t want something too small either. She seemed to understand so I am trusting her judgment. She did my MOH’s flowers and they looked so great so I was comfortable with her making tha call.
Post # 9
ok make sure you give your florist a picture of you in your dress, also mention to her the size of your bms.
I usually do a larger bouquet for a bride than bm’s but in one case, per request I did
the same size of bouquet for bride as bm’s because she was a lot smaller.
Maybe mention you want all of them to be the same size except yours should have different more unique variety of flowers.
Post # 10
Hmmm, I think of bouquets like I do purses. I personally love huge purses, and I want a massive bouquet (probably for similar reasons as I love a huge purse). I think it makes ME look smaller! hehe. But If I was petite, I would probably want something more appropriate for my frame. I’m sure florists deal with this all the time, so I wouldn’t worry to much!
Post # 11
We had to preview my daughter’s wedding flowers the day before (a GREAT idea!) and the first thing I noticed was the BM’s bouquets were larger than the brides. I’d never seen that before,and when they saw my shocked look,they asked me what was wrong…..and quickly fixed it. Wrapped the BM’s tighter so they were smaller,and added filler to the bride’s and loosened it. Then they were perfect.
What I really don’t like is when the bride can barely hold a wrapped bouquet as its too fat/thick. It makes my own hand cramp when I see that!
Buy a bunch of flowers and experiment holding them in front of you to see how they look, adding or subtracting til you’re happy. Your florist will be able to help with that so you get exactly what you want.
Post # 12
Thanks for all the feedback everyone. It sounds like more communication with my florist is needed, which is fine b/c we have a follow-up meeting before the wedding.
@ smyley: it’s so funny you said that about the wrapped bouquet making your hand cramp! What started me worrying about this was a photo on my photographer’s blog of a bride very similar to my size and shape holding a tied bouquet that definitely makes my hand cramp to look at (see below). There are only so many florists in our rural area, so I could be using the one who did this.