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Bouquet toss without garter toss

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    Future Mrs. JJ    February 20, 2011   Live in NJ, Wedding in NC

    Who is doing a bouquet toss without doing the garter? Will people expect the garter toss to be done after? I have always wanted to toss my bouquet, but my FI is the respectable type infront of family.

     
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    VagabondGurl    August 7, 2010   Wedding: NH; Living: CA

    I'm not wearing a garter or doing a garter toss.  I'm still on the fence about a bouquet toss (mine will be DIY with dried flowers, so I'd like to keep it!) but if I have enough extra flowers to make a "toss bouquet" I will be doing just that.  I really don't think it's the end of the world to do one and not the other.

     
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    greenleafmountain    7.31.2010  

    I haven't decided what I will do myself, but out of every wedding I've been to that had a bouquet toss, only one also had a garter toss, so I don't think people will think it's weird if you only do one.

     
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    brittromance    October 16, 2010   San Diego, California

    You don't have to do both, just the bouquet toss would be fine! People don't expect the garter toss...at least in my neck of the woods. I am not even doing a bouquet toss...instead, we are doing an anniversary dance and I am giving my bouquet to the couple who has been married/together the longest.

     
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    moderndaisy    June 2010  

    We didn't do either, but I REALLY wanted to do the bouquet toss! The garter toss was absolutely out of the question, it's not us at all since we're super conservative.

    My sister did a bouquet toss with no garter toss and no one noticed. Although, she shouldn't have even done the bouquet toss because it was a huge fail. People don't really like participating in those any more..

     
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    caitlanc    September 12, 2009   Western Slope of Colorado

    I wasn't planning on either one but ended up doing a spontaneous bouquet toss after my MOH said all the girls kept asking her when it would be.  I never heard a word about the garter toss.  (Which was perfect since I couldn't find mine and so wasn't wearing one.)  So yeah, it's definitely possible to do one without the other.  :-)

     
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    plantains    July 17, 2011   Live in NY, wedding in CT

    I have never been to a wedding with a garter toss, but most of the ones I have been to have a bouquet toss.

     
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    missjyc    September 18, 2010   macomb, michigan

    im definitely considering this option... i have a toss bouquet im getting as a bonus to our flower package, so i def want to do the toss.... but i'm not too fond of the idea of a garter toss... having FI under my skirt in front of 200 guests is not my idea of fun!

     
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    teeleaf22    June 11, 2010   Milford, PA (wedding in Easton, PA)

    we did a break away bouquet and tossed to all women not just the single ladies, we had six blooms, each had a fortune attached and one was a winner to a sephora gift card, we tossed one garter, all men stood up and there a best buy gift card attached. we did not have the guy put garter on the lady ..everyone got involved and loved that it wasnt only single people

     
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    Future Mrs. JJ    February 20, 2011   Live in NJ, Wedding in NC

    @teeleaf22:  Wow thats a great idea. I like that a lot.

    This is really helpful ladies thank you!

     
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    sailor    May 2010  

    My sister did a bouquet toss and no garter toss.  I don't think anybody noticed or cared.

     
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    futurediplomatswife    October 9, 2010   Washington, DC/Palo Alto, CA

    I don't think you have to do both if you don't want!  People won't be confused, especially if after the bouquet toss you focus their attention elsewhere, like have the DJ play more dance music, or something.  If it's just the impropriety of reaching all up in your dress in front of his family that has your sweetie skeeved out, you could always have him toss a garter without doing the whole show of taking it off.  You can either do that part in another room, or just have it ready somewhere.  But if it's just not something he wants to do, I say skip it!

     

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