Post # 1
We are doing minimal flowers (no bridesmaids bouquets, they’ll carry fans) and no bouts for groomsmen, as ours is a garden wedding. But do we need a bout for the father of the groom? He’s not in the wedding so I don’t know if he needs one or what the custom for that is.
So far, all we have is bout for groom, bout for my dad, bouquet for me and small hair wreath for me (through florist) plus flowers for the tables for me).
Post # 2
Cordellia: Normally the groom’s father does get one. However, normally the groomsmen also get them, so you are already breaking the tradition:) Honestly, even though there are going to be flowers everywhere, I would still probably get them for the groomsmen AND the father of the groom. They aren’t that expensive, and I think it will look nice. But at the end of the day, it is your wedding and needs to be a reflection of you. And I don’t think most men would have broken hearts over not getting a bout.
Post # 3
I definitely don’t want them for the groomsmen. Our main colour is purple and they are already wearing purple ties (FI is not) and that would be overkill. Not our taste at all.
I’m just wondering if the father should have one too although he’s not in the wedding. Maybe we will just ask him.
Post # 5
Cordellia: If the groomsmen don’t have them I personally don’t see why the father of the groom would need one. I would say go without.
Post # 4
Cordellia: I think since your father (father of the bride) has a bout, father of the groom really should have one too.
Post # 6
If your dad has one then I think his dad should have one.
ETA: I don’t think he needs to be a part of the wedding to have one. The GMs are part of the wedding and they won’t have one. I personally think it could be seen as favoritism if one dad has one and the other doesn’t.
Post # 7
If you don’t wanna do boutonnieres, I’d at least do something to set him apart from the rest of your wedding party. Granted, he’s not technically IN the wedding party, but generally the parents of the couple are noticeable. We did boutonnieres and corsages for the moms and dads (well, my granddad), but we also had bouquets, so…=\
Maybe do a pin or something on his lapel instead? I would try to set him apart from the average guest or party member, though. He’s a parent, he deserves recognition.
Post # 8
Both dads get bouts or no dads get bouts.
Post # 9
Definitely get the FOG a boutonniere if the FOB is having one.
Post # 10
If you are getting one for your dad, you should definitely get one for his father as well.
Post # 11
Ok, getting one! I think I wasn’t thinking about it since my bff did a wedding where only her dad had a bout. Phew…thanks, ladies!