Post # 1
So, call me crazy but I’m not really a fan of boutonnieres. I know this is like blasphemy in the wedding world, but I don’t think we’re going to have them. Something about them just makes me think of prom a little!! I think it might be kind of chic to go without them, I mean you never see George Clooney with one on the red carpet and he always looks pretty darn good in his tux!! I was thinking of just having the guys wear a colored pocket square to match their ties? So what do you think, will the guys look incomplete?? Or will it be an un-missed detail?
Post # 3
We went back and forth on this a lot. We have decided no bouts. I am making pocket squares that will match the girls dresses for the guys and one for Fiance too. My Fiance will also wear a pocket square that I will make to match my gown, so he will be wearing two pocket squares.
Post # 4
I think it’s really a personal choice. Sometimes boutonnieres look better, but sometimes pocket squares look better. I def don’t think the guys will look “incomplete” without boutonnieres, as long as they have the pocket squares.
Post # 5
I’m going w/o bouts! I posted something about this too…..We are doing the pocket squares. I posted something on Etsy’s Alchemy site and I have received a ton of bids for people wanting to make them!
Post # 6
We are also doing pocket squares and no bouts! My friend who was recently married had neither pocket squares nor bouts; the guys wore a traditional Hawaiian necklace. I think that whatever you do will be perfect – do what you want!!
Post # 7
its personal taste, i thought i didnt like bouts because all the ones i saw were too boring n basic… now i will be having bouts but they will be unique and stylish
Post # 8
No bouts or pocket squares for us…not my style.
Post # 9
No bouts or pocket squares here, either. The only bout will be worn by my father.
Post # 10
I dislike the modern interpretation of the boutoniere. I get what you’re saying about prom. All the sparkle and baby’s breath and jazz paired with a tuxedo that’s supposed to be the epitome of understated elegance. I like the plain-ol’ flower, which is what I’ll be wearing. And I think it adds some “celebration” or festiveness to the tux. I’m goin’ for something like this. No stem, no embellishments to the flower. Just the flower. And then you can add a pocket square without the two competing for attention. I think it’s a nice, non-prom boutoniere option.
Post # 11
either way I think is fine. nobody will wonder where they are. except I know that our dads were really excited about getting them to match the groomsmen. Also my grandfather and officiant got them too and they really enjoyed being included.
Post # 12
I don’t think they are necessary. In fact, I have seen several wedding shoots where the groom/GMs are without and they look very classy/stylish. Right now we are signed up to have them with our florist, but I am thinking about nixing them as well. They seem so prom-y to me.
Post # 13
Wow! I’m pleasantly surprised I’m not the only one who doesn’t love them! Great advice ladies, thanks!!
Post # 14
I thought I was the only one! I am SO not a fan, but I just didn’t know what else to do! Good ideas ladies… I love wedding bee, so many smart ideas!
Post # 15
ummm… are they still considered bouts if they aren’t attached to the clothes? Just wondering, cause I plan on making mine where the guys can attach them anywhere… which should be rather amusing, considering they’re gonna be in costumes! LOL!
Post # 16
@Verno Inferno: that’s one of the first bouts I’ve ever really liked. I usually don’t like the look of them. I may reconsider now… 🙂