(Closed) Boy said something dumb

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Member
14750 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would just leave it alone and who cares what people think about how much he spent.  If they have issues with it then it is there issue.  If you are happy with it, that is all that matters.  As far as them asking you about it, I would just say “Oh you know how drunk boys can be….” and drop it.  It will leave them guessing until you are ready to announce it.

Post # 4
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2083 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Yeah, that does suck. I understand why he blurted something out though – friends pressuring the guy about proposing never makes the guy happy. If your friends seem like they are being snooty about any part of your ring, I would just blow them off. Real friends wouldn’t gossip about how much money your guy spends on your ring. I mean some people might be loaded but not feel the need to spend a lot on a ring, know what I mean? It is all based on personal choice/style.

Post # 6
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14750 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I totally understand about stealing the thunder, my FH told a nephew whilst intoxicated and said cousins wife announced it to the whole family (they live out of town) before we had the opportunity to get down there and announce it in person.  It was kind of crushing.  I was really looking forward to the hugs and congrats, she stole that moment from me and I will never get that back.  Oh well, drunken boys, what can you do? LOL

Post # 7
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2281 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I’m sure its not a big of a deal. And I’m sure when you do get engaged it will be just as exciting with all the wedding planning.

Hold tight and try not to let it bother you.

Post # 8
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683 posts
Busy bee

The engagement is about you and him- as long as you’re not hurting feelings it doesn’t matter how much your ring cost or when you’ll get engaged or if you kept it from people or not.

You are under no obligation to tell anyone you’re in the pre-planning stages (excepts MAYBE your parents,) getting a ring is like revealing the name or sex of a newborn- some couples like to keep it a surprise and no one is offended.

Congrats!

Post # 9
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1030 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Hey flutterbi-

We have similar “I’m the one in charge of the ring-design process” stories. When we started shopping, I was SO excited a told a couple of people. Well, we didn’t get something ‘off the rack’, and now are starting this tedious designing it process, which is taking forever, and of course now those friends are bugging me about where we are and what we’re doing and blah blah and I wish I HADN’T told them because like someone else said, it’s none of their business where we are in the process. So don’t for a second feel bad about not telling them. And honestly, when people you know have gotten engaged, are you just happy for them or are you angry they didn’t tell you they were ring shopping?? Obviously the first. 🙂

And it’s also none of their business about the money.. they are all mature, grown women who understand financials are specific person-to-person depending on so many things, so they shouldn’t be judging you.

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