- 4 years ago
First of all, thank you for taking the time to read this! I really appreciate any advice, I am freakig out right now (Apologies for any typos – writing this from my phone)
So last night, during what I hoped to have been a productive conversation, my live in boyfriend revealed that he sometimes wonders if we are right for each other. He said that the reasons he wonders this at times is because he tends to get more frustrated with me than with most people, and at times he “counts the hours” until I leave the house to run errands or go to work so he can have his alone time. He said he sometimes feels like there is a noose around him when I’m home, even if I am in the other room. He wasn’t sure if it had to do with our apartment size, or something with me. I told him that it’s normal for people to get more frustrated at their loved ones and that since he is someone who needs more alone time than most, it wasn’t that strange that he would need that time. I even can understand that to a degree. He acknowledges all of this, yet still isn’t sure that something just isn’t right. then after saying all that, he tells me he loves me and to relax. That he has more good thoughts than bad, but these are the things that are keeping him uncertain if I’m the one, I guess.
I do tend to be anxious at times, and I’m having a hard time dealing with this. It doesn’t help that we both travel for work and I get stuck with torturous thoughts for days. What the hell do I do now? I don’t want to break up. For the most part, our relationship is amazing. On my end, I have no doubts and am sure he is the one I want to end up with. I have been through enough relationships to know and appreciate when I have something good, and I don’t want to lose it. I would marry him right now if he asked. It just sucks to know he has these doubts. I feel so insecure now. Am I overreacting?
Our background is: We have been dating for 1 year and 2 months, living together for 6 months. I am 30 and he is 31