(Closed) boyfriend says i’m overly….PART 3

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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1645 posts
Bumble bee

I maintain that he’s a child who needs to grow up. Dump his ass. You deserve better.

Post # 4
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4804 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Not cool at all.

Post # 5
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1645 posts
Bumble bee

If he proposed to me right now I would say no.

You just answered your own questions. He’s not worth the trouble.

Post # 6
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2192 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I agree that you totally deserve better and have given him way more chances than I would have. If it were me, he’d be gone. 

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

If he won’t go to counseling with you, you should leave. Of course I cannot tell you what to do, but my FI were having issues like this and it is not good. We just got done with our premarital counseling and it has made a world of difference. but if he is not willing to change, I can guarantee you, you could find someone better.

Post # 8
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Helper bee

Wow. Based on your post, there is NO REASON he should have exploded at a simple suggestion that you guys talk about something that was causing you problems. Successful couples have good communication, and I definitely see an effort on your part towards this, but not on his part. His reaction is silly and immature. And I think maybe you guys should seek out counseling for this – plus, his sexist remarks are in no way condonable, and maybe a third party could help with that. 

Good luck!

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

He sounds like an ass. An uninformed one at that (the variance between logical men and logical women is actually quite low; it’s a personality thing). Don’t take this as too harsh, but I would leave.

I followed and commented on your first post and if he really believes this…..can you imagine one day having a DAUGHTER with him? I would like to hope not. There are more understanding and caring men out there and you deserve one. Please, please don’t stay with someone you can’t see yourself marrying that says hurtful and rude things to you.

Post # 10
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Helper bee

@Impatiently waiting: Oh, and I forgot to add in my previous post, that I think it’s ironic that he is insulting you by saying you’re an “emotional woman” when HE is the only one acting emotional!

Post # 11
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2906 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Dump him. I was in a relationship like this, it is terrible for your self esteem and it will continue to wear you down until you’re hardly ever happy.

 

It sucks to go through a break up, but it sucks way worse to live through an unhappy marriage.

 

Sounds like you need some hugs.

 

::sending lots of hugs your way::

Post # 12
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359 posts
Helper bee

@AmeliaBedelia:  I used to think the same thing too.  A girlfriend of mine got married in October and went through marriage counseling before taking the plunge.  Her counselor actually told her that physically speaking, the emotional receptors in a man’s brain are about 20% the size of the emotional receptors in a woman’s brain.  (Or they only use 20% of it or something crazy.)  It actually shows up on X-Rays or something…weird.

Post # 15
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Helper bee

I’ve gotta say, I agree.  I’ve followed all of your posts and it really sounds like your BF needs a wake up call.  He is not treating you very well.  He is in his 30’s and should know how to have an open communication with someone.  If you bring up something that is bothering you he should be willing to try and fix the relationship.

Honestly, it doesn’t sound like a healthy relationship, and you can do better!

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee

Any advice I would give you would repeat what others have said, but I wish you the best. 

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