Boyfriend wants a tattoo I really dislike!

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

Does it stand for something? Is that what you don’t like? Or just essentially don’t like the actual image? If my FI wanted to get a tattoo I didn’t like I would tell him, and I have before. He figures that since I’ll have to see them forever he wants to make me happy lol. I’ve never told him he couldn’t get one he really liked, but he usually decides against it if he knows I don’t love it. Like you said it’s their body and ultimately if they want it bad enough, they’ll get it. But I don’t think you are being unreasonable at all! Good luck!

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Jeneexoxo:  I know a lot of bees will say it’s none of your business and I disagree. Reason being that major tattoos on a guy would have been a deal breaker from the beginning. First, my family is quite old fashioned and although I don’t require their approval, an immediate dislike on their part wouldn’t have been very conducive to starting a relationship.

Furthermore, I find a lot of tattoos just tacky, tasteless and trashy. If you’re going to have them,  it’s best to have them somewhere well hidden, because although it’s very common place these days, it can cause issues in terms of future employment etc (depending on your profession, of course). Stigmas and judgements, though we all agree shouldn’t exist, exist regardless of what you and I feel. Why make things unnecessarily more difficult for yourself.

Truth be told, my FI has a tattoo, and I actually like it. It’s tasteful, and hides well. And it’s kind of sexy lol. So don’t think I’m completely judgemental and horrible – I’m just of the opinion that less is more. And these days some people go overboard.

That being said, I wanted my nose pierced a few years back (and belly button too), and my FI told me the exact same stuff I said above. I didn’t do it, and now I’m glad that he asked me not to. If you’re together, I absolutely think it’s a joint decision. But the bottom line is really, what type of relationship you two have. Not everyone will feel the same way I do. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Jeneexoxo:  andddd I think I went totally off topic on that last post. Sorry! 🙂

Post # 7
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Helper bee

I’m not ashamed to admit that I’ve dumped guys over ugly tattoos before 🙂 physical attraction is important in a relationship

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I agree with you OP, that actual image is terrible! Maybe you could find another image of an Oroboros that you like better.

If he asked your opinion then he really has no right to be upset about your opinion not being what he wanted it to be..

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I can see why you don’t care for that particular design. It’s kind of ugly (in my humble opinion!) and it doesn’t seem like it has any real meaning to him. Maybe try to talk him into getting something more personal? You might be able to appreciate the tattoo a bit more if it actually means something to him.

I can only laugh at people who claim tattoos will hinder one’s career. My FI is a specialty physician at a research hospital and rocks this bad boy:

To each their own!

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Ultimately, it’s his body. However, it’s lovely that he’s including you in the process. Your opinion means a lot to him. That being said, trying finding a Oroboros that you like.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Hyperventilate:  had a good idea. All you have to do is google “oroboros” and click on images…there are several images that are far more attractive and detailed than the version you posted. Maybe see if your SO likes any of those?

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Yeah, what about showing him some other simliar designs that you like, if you can find any?

I want to get another tattoo, and DH is fine with it, but I have showed him each design I start to like, and get his opinion.  Honestly, the tattoo on my back he sees about 90% more than I see it, since I have to crane my neck in a mirror to view it, and he sees it much more often.  He even sees my ankle tattoo more than I do, so it’s important to me he at least thinkg they are nice designs versus ugly designs. 

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Also, that’s not a random tattoo, I’m pretty sure its from Full Metal Alchemist, an anime show.  Perhaps something more timeless?

Post # 14
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Worker bee

I’m not a fan of tattoos, and my fiancé has one that I don’t like. It’s on his upper arm, and he got it before we started dating. I get that it has some symbolism, but it was rushed (there was the opportunity to get it so he did, rather than it being a planned decision) and I don’t like the design! He knows I’m not a fan, but it’s his body and ultimately he can do whatever he likes with it.

He wants another one, so post-wedding I’m going to call around some reputable parlours and book him in for a proper consultation. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

applecat:  my family works in Engineering and owns several businesses. It’s not uncommon for people to lose out on good job opportunities due to visible piercings/tattoos. I think the biggest reason is that quite a number of the guys in higher positions are older and tend to lean towards being old fashioned, among other reasons. 

I also know a number of physicians and health care workers who also sport tattoos and piercings. Just because there is a more open-minded atmosphere in some professions and geographical locations doesn’t mean it exists everywhere. To say that it’s laughable seems to be slightly ignorant and naive. 

That is why I made my comment relatively broad, emphasizing that it typically depends on your line of work. Either way, I have seen first hand how large visible tattoos and piercings can cause issues in terms of employment, in certain professions. It’s not like I pulled that idea out of my ass, just to make a point. I always suggest being cautious, because you just never know. Even if it may not affect you now, what happens when you decide on a career change further down the road? 

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