Boyfriend's niece and ex SIL

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

While I don’t thinkit’s appropriate for a 22 year old to hang out with a 16 year old, it’s not your problem, it’s the mom and dads problem.

Sadly this just happened to a family friend and now her 16 year old is pregnant. She seriously thought they were just “friends” and it was ok, she’s not thinking that now.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

It’s never good for divorced parents to introduce a bunch of casual partners to their kids… Hopefully nothing fishy is going on, it’s one of those situations that sounds iffy but could easily be totally innocuos. I’m not sure what you could say though that the mom would want to listen to. I’d just try to keep in touch with the daughter and let her know she can confide in you if anything is going on. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

@Kacey23:   This really bothers me on a personal level because I was friends with a girl whose mom basically told this guy that he could have his way with her daughter and she didn’t care. Now, the girl was 18 but she was mentally handicapped and basically had the mind and cognitive functioning of an eight year old. She could not legally say yes or no to sex, so this mom basically gave this guy the green light to rape her daughter!

I’m not at all saying this is what’s happening here (my best friend since I was 15 was 4 years older than me, but then she’s also a girl), but I would definitely be concerned and I’m amazed the father isn’t. Still, unfortunately, you and your SO ultimately have no say in this. I’m not sure what you can do other than be an open ear (maybe she’ll tell you if these guys ever act inappropriately or make her uncomfortable).

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