Post # 1
My SO is amazing: very attentive, understanding, extremely kind, etc. But he is also a GUY which means I sometimes come second to ESPN.
I often have to remind myself that he is boy and not one of my girlfriends. When I want to just chat, gossip, talk about “us” or look deeply into his eyes (LOL), he is, most of the time, not on board.
He is always sweet! Never disrespectful or rude, nothing like that. But I’m curious if every guy is ilke this.
I sometimes feel like a puppy dog, “Give me attention! Look at me! Tell me how cute I am!!” I would like to note that we live and work together so we’re together the majority of every day (it’s not like he would ignore me if we only saw each other a couple hours a day)
*I’m laughing at myself while writing this, I know I sound silly
Post # 3
Do NOT get me started on the Xbox… Literally if I could sue them for something, I would! I don’t get the fascination with it, apparently it is ‘relaxing’ but I don’t get that-he’s sitting there shooting and shouting-that can’t be relaxing!!!
Post # 4
You just spoke to my very soul with your post, OP! I feel like that ALL the time!
Post # 5
DH does like his sports and hobbys, but if I said I wanted to spend ‘us’ time that did not involve those items he would put them down in a second.
Post # 6
We each get each other’s undivided attention. We’re kind of odd though. We would always rather be with one another than with anyone else.
Post # 7
He is actually more “cuddly” then I am. I will feel suffocated. He does play video games, but will turn it off when I do happen to want attention. I have a harder time turning off the games. He will want to spoon me for most of the night and I will have to move because I just need space!
Post # 8
We don’t have cable, but FI is on his computer ALL the time. He is either playing a game or reading some car forum. The other night we were in bed chatting and he says ‘we always have our best conversations at night in bed’. I was just like well ya, there is no computer in bed haha.
Post # 9
Luckily my FI is not into xbox anymore (he gave that up in his teen years, which is good, because i wouldnt have considered marrying him if he was still on the xbox all night) and he also doesnt watch sports… so i get almost all his attention!
Post # 10
@Corgi-cariad: Ugghhh! I know exactly how you feel. The thought of breaking that damn thing while he’s not home has crossed my mind more than once, but then I think “eehh…it’s not like he really wants to listen to my boring stories or watch me paint my toenails”. And, yes my SO tells me it’s “relaxing”, too. I don’t get it either.
Post # 11
@Azalea_Bee: My SO enjoys Playstation but he always always turns it off when I am home and I never have to ask him to either. He just does it on his own because he understands that it’s rude and immature to ignore his woman for childish games. He does watch a lot of fly fishing shows and taped episodes of COPS, but he will turn those off if I want without complaining. Whenever I want attention from him, he gives it to me, and he often gives it even when I don’t want it! He can be a little grabby when we are sitting beside each other minding our own business on the couch…I love it though.
Post # 12
Ughh SO is mostly about video games, with a side of sports. Recently he and his brother started playing a game on PS3, and SO gets frustrated because his brother has spent twice as much time playing it and is therefore ahead of him. Um HELLO?! You have a gf! Your brother does NOT! He also plays golf at least once a week on top of all his other extra curriculars.
My SO just needs a lot of stimulation I guess lol. But if I ever get frustrated by his game playing ways he usually turns them off to spend QT with me.
Post # 13
@JemmaWRX: We are exactly the same way and I couldn’t be happier with that arrangement 🙂
Post # 14
- Wedding: September 2013 - Franklin Plaza
We’re so bad about that though. When we’re out with friends we have to remind ourselves that we’re not the only two people there. And it’s not PDA – FI is adamantly opposed to that (the most I get in public is a cheek, forehead or nose kiss). But we could just talk/look at each other forever. It’s pretty bad.
Post # 15
- Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club
I get the majority of my SO’s attention. When he’s not working or doing school work, it’s us time…. but since he works between 40-60 hours a week and is going to school full time, that’s not a lot of time left over.
Post # 16
- Wedding: September 2013 - Franklin Plaza
@Corgi-cariad: +1 on the not getting it part. I will come home and FI is playing is and yelling at the TV. And he also says its ‘fun and relaxing’. Yeah it doesn’t look that way to anyone entering the room though. Fortunately he’s good about turning it off when I’m back so we can do something (after he kills the boss of course, lol)