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Seriously they do, something has been up my FI's butt because he's been such an A$$. He is just making me upset, his behavior makes me feel like I've done something wrong. Earlier he asked me to look for some paperwork, and I started to but he locked the file cabinet and the keys are in the safe. I can't open that safe to save my own life and I told him I couldn't. He just texts, "Then Stop". Seriously I can't get him to tell me what's bothering him either. 

The only problem is if I give him anymore space I would literally NEVER see him. He is frustrated at work and is having a hard time because he recently got a promotion but he doesn't feel he is fully trained yet and needs more training. I just don't think its fair he is taking out his work frustrations on me, I thought we had moved past that, I have a shitty job also but I leave it there I don't bring it home. I'm really over it, and unfortunately I'm the type of person that if you push away you wont get back. 

This is really tough to deal with. I love my FI to death, but if I have a horrible day at work I sometimes take it out on him. I didn't realize how much it upset him at first, honestly, because I thought it was obvious that I was b*tching about work, not him.

If I were you, I would try not to get mad back at him - just show him how much it upsets you when he acts like this, and try to talk to him about it when he's not in a bad mood. At the same time, I think you should accept the fact that you guys will have less quality time together while he adjusts to his new job. We just graduated college and both started working in finance, so we went from seeing each other for over half of each day to 1-2hours daily. And usually too tired to actually talk or do anything when we get home. So I know it's not fun, but hang in there, and hopefully it'll get better soon! 

That is really insightful g.w.a.r.  It really is the case here I work full time and go to school full time and there are days when we don't see each other at all like maybe a good night kiss. I just wish he would value the little time we do get to be together as much as I do. I really think its his job that is frustrating him and I need to be as supportive as I can possibly be. I just wish I could keep my cool and wouldn't lose it so easily. 

I think so to MissA he was supposed to go to London for training in January for a month and he heard it wont be happening for a while longer. He just takes so much pride in his job and there has been so much drama at his workplace since he got the promotion that he feels the need to prove everyone wrong. 

The guy he replaced was a total flake and not a team player whatsoever but he had a very good way of manipulating people into thinking he is the best at "building racecar engines" and that my FI is a hack. Of course this is not true and the old guy got fired for just being shady and a slew of other things. He has had the hardest time getting people to trust him even though he hasn't done anything wrong. Just smack talk from other guy. I feel so bad for him but this has been going on for almost 2 months now and I just want to make it all better but don't  know how to.