Brain dead Canadian woman on life support for unborn child

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
5460 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think, in this case, he is following what his wife’s wishes would have been.  The difference between this situation and the one in Texas is that 1-she was farther along when the incident occurred, 2-the fetus is growing normally, and 3-the husband’s wishes are being honored.  In Texas, the fetus was not growing normally and the husband’s wishes were to let his wife go (presumable because that is what she would have wanted).  

Post # 5
419 posts
Helper bee

The Texas woman didn’t want to be kept alive by extradinary means and her husband didn’t want that either. The state stepped in and forced her to be an unwilling incubator. To me that is a HUGE difference. I’m 20 weeks now. I think at this point I could go either way. Like if they knew my baby could be alright and my husband wanted to raise our daughter alone, sure hook me up. I’m dead either way. But me carrying a baby is MY decision and in the event I’m in a brain dead state I personally chose to transfer that to my husband. The idea that he would have to not bury my or not have some closure or be upset that I am in that limbo state because of outsiders opinions is to me the worst thing that can happen. So it’s up to him and him alone IMO. And if he has to say ‘we talked about it and she wanted _____’ I’m cool with that. 

Post # 6
816 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I am not familiar with the Texas case, but reading this one breaks my heart. That poor husband. What a strong man he is being for both his wife and his baby. He has a long road ahead of him.

Post # 7
4440 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

How the hell does this shit happen? Seriously…life is strange.  Especially while pregnant? It’s so heartbreaking and scares the crap out of me.


Post # 9
10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

I don’t have a problem with this, as the next of kin is making the decision.  I hope he ends up with a healthy baby boy, as it’s a terrible situation to be dealing without any other challenges.

Post # 10
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

How heartbreaking for the husband! I’m glad they’re respecting his wishes, though… And I hope the baby makes it okay!

Post # 12
88 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

What I find shocking is that no one talks to you about this when you get pregnant! I had no idea there were laws concerning this in certain states, and my midwife certainly didn’t tell me. I only found out because of the recent Texas story (especially pertinent to me as a pregnant Texan), and then got curious and googled where else it is law.* I think as difficult a scenario as it is to imagine, pregnant women should be informed of the laws in their area so they have an opportunity to set up end-of-life directives and other instructions in case the worse should occur.

* The doc I found, if anyone was curious:

Post # 16
928 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

So sad she died but I am so happy to hear little Iver was born healthy. Such good news among so much tragedy for the family.

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