- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2015 - The Old Courthouse in Cleveland
I have been reading every post I can in the military forum.
I love my SO dearly, we’ve been together for 2 years, and have a great relationship overall. The main source of stress on our relationship is the military. He was forced/ guilted into joining the military by his family; He attends West Point Military Academy. (I love his family too, but their priorities and moral differ tremendously from my own.)
The Problem: I have never been a huge fan of him joining the military. And now that he has, I am feeling torn apart by the question of to stay or to not. I love him to death, so my heart says stay. But I have my own degree and goals set for myself. Recently my brain has been telling me that I am being stupid for planning my life completely around the military. If his heart was all in on the military I would be much much more willing to sacrafice my goals and wants to satisfy the needs of our relationship. He doesnt want to be in the military. I have a verrrrry hard time knowing that I am planning my life around a situation that he doesnt even want to be in. It will effect the next 8 years of our lives.
So anyway, I know I have to make my own decision… but I want to know what you bees think? Did anyone face this problem in their relationship??? How did you handle it?