(Closed) Brand new Bee saying HI! small intro/vent session :)

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
2577 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010



It is hard to be a waiting bee, but you will get a LOT of support here! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 4
1013 posts
Bumble bee

Welcome! Its tough. Believe me.  I’m having a HORRIBLE day where i’m angry.  Angry because my SO knows how much i want an engagment and hasn’t done it. Why? I dont know…to torture me is the only thing i can think of LOL. 

So lean on the bee if you need help or are unsure of anything.  we are here to help.

Post # 5
1152 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Welcome to the Hive! 

Yup, waiting can be super frustrating. It sounds like you have talked, at least a little about your future together. Have you gone in-depth and really explained why it’s important to you to get married? And have you asked if you guys can compromise and put together a timeline? 

Communication is key! Especially with these poor guys who are wonderful and sweet but completely clueless. We sometimes expect the guy to read our minds and they wish they could, but alas, they are clueless because we don’t always say exactly what we mean or want. So if it’s really bothering you, you should talk to him. But if you’re ok waiting for him to do it on his own, then let it go! 

Hope we can provide some help and support for you! 

Post # 6
20 posts
  • Wedding: July 2012

Welcome,  I am new here too and find all the bees super helpful.

I know what it is to have an amazing, yet clueless guy (we have been together about 5 1/2 years as well).  My guy leaves every little detail up to me, and for some reason he thought that once I said yes, he had until our wedding day to give me the ring, LOL.  Needless to say, I had to tell him NO usually it comes with the proposal!  Hang in there, and if all else fails, give him some hints!

Post # 8
276 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m in the same boat you’re in rewind! Although my SO talks about marriage all the time so I know he wants the same thing but now it’s just a matter of me driving myself crazy waiting.. And it’s tough bc there’s nothing you can really do but wait.. I get angry and sad and confused and frustrated about it all of the time! But I stumbled upon this website a few days ago and the support here is incredible! I’ve gotten a lot of insight and now after reading and hearing so many stories like my own it’s been making the waiting more tolerable. I’m more hopeful and I’m seeing it from him point of view besides only my own now.. It’s a lot of work for the guy.. So I’m trying to keep that in mind before I freak out on him.. 

You should read mr bees 3 step plan! I’m trying to focus more on myself and it’s helping.. I’m a very new bee too.. But I’m loving thicommunity! 

Its really important to make sure he does want marriage too.. But after you’ve established that it’s just important to focus on you and just be the fabulous woman that you knoW he loves!

Post # 9
1280 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Welcome glad you’re here and we’re always here to support !

Post # 10
2398 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Hi ladies, I just want to say that I remember feeling what you all felt. We had been together for four years and I started feeling desperate, lonely and angry.  He noticed a change in me, I started to do things for me and distance myself without even trying. He asked what was wrong. I was honest and told him that I couldnt change the way I feel.  A few short months later he proposed and we were married six months later.  

If its meant to be and if he loves you and knows how important this is for you, he will propose. ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 11
276 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Mrs.Jansen:  Thank you! It is hard to wait, but no matter how long or short a wait we’ve all been there.. It’s great to know so many women go through the same thing.. It’ll happen we just have to Be patient even though it’s hard.. I’m trying to take this time to do more for me.. I always put my SO above myself.. Im not ignoring him or shunning him, but I’m doing more girl things on my own and it’s a great feeling 

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