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posted 3 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 3
1164 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Welcome to the Bee!

If your topics are related, I see no problem posting them together. If they are completely unrelated, it’s usually easier to post in the board they belong on. You’d also get more focused answers that way. I think multiple unrelated questions would lead to mixed answers that begin to get jumbled after a while!

Post # 4
9859 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Pulsepoint129:  you will find some of those same people in this forum, but generally people here are far more supportive and you won’t find witch brooms etc in people’s post signatures lie you do over there.  I will caution you – the subjects of cash bars, jack & jills, honeymoon registiries (or even just registries) can get contentious and are often very touchy subjects here as well.  

Post # 5
132 posts
Blushing bee

Hi 🙂


I’m a newbie to the site too. I’ve been a long-time lurker, but only recently started posting. My impression from is that it is a very kind, safe space to post. A lot of people ask a variety of questions, and it seems like the women (and men) here are very kind, very friendly, honest and polite, and respond with a sense of promoting community, and bonding over common exciting experiences.

I’ve never started a thread with my own questions, so the only recommendation I can make is tag appropriately/post in the right board. There was one thread I saw that was great, and one commentator very politely said “this is great, but why is this posted on this board, instead of ….”. Simple mistake, and no one got mad.

I’m not sure about posting questions separately or together. If they are all connected in theme, maybe together? E.g. if they are all about the Jack-and-Jill party, then post them together. If you have one question about the stag parties, one about choosing between two wedding dresses, and one about logistics, perhaps post them separately in the appropriate boards.


Thats my two cents! I’d listen to the veteran posters over me 🙂




p.s. WELCOME! 


Post # 6
8850 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

Hi, welcome! 

Just find the right category to post under, and it’s probably better to do one question at a time.  FYI, it’s busier around here during the work week (slackers!), and people love polls.  It’s a pretty welcoming place, although I agree with the previous poster who said that a few topics (mostly involving money & etiquette, like Jack and Jills) have the potential to get contentious.

Also just a heads up – the moderators don’t like it when we discuss the “other” website, even when the name is cleverly disguised 😉

Post # 7
42117 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Pulsepoint129:  Welcome to the Hive! The majority of the Bees are kind and helpful but there are a few who like to sting.

Just remember that people tend to respond without giving much thought to the culture, ethnicity, or geographical location of the OP. If something is common in your area, either mention it in your post or  ignore  the naysayers.

We all need to put on our big-girl panties on the internet. If you ask for opinions, you are going to get them. That doesn’t mean they are right.

I look forward to getting to know you.

Post # 9
3731 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Pulsepoint129:  Welcome to the hive! I made the mistake of mentioning dollar dances on “that other site” and I got compared to a homeless person begging on the street for change!

Post # 11
641 posts
Busy bee

There will ALWAYS be ettiqite harpies telling you that anything involving not standing and smiling and brushing your hair and buying people presents and throwing them a massive party and gigglying coyly when any form of finance or gifts or cost is mentioned will make you a dark evil money grubbing witch.




These people are insane. Just ignore them. Luckily there are enough people on the bee who are not this way, who can have an honest conversation with you around the “TSK TSK TSK FOR SHAME YOU ARE NOT PRETENDING TO HAVE ENDLESS WEALTH OR THAT YOU DON’T ENJOY RECEIVING GIFTS. YOU MONSTER.” types.


Post # 13
2299 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Welcome to the hive! This really is a great group of people, but you need to understand that if you ask a question you will get a variety of answers, and you may not like all of them. This is the beauty of things – we can’t all agree all of the time, that would make for a boring existence!


Keep an open mind, and have fun 😉


Post # 14
346 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Pulsepoint129:  I’m pretty new to the site too. Everyone seems helpful enough except the “Etiquette Police.” Just ignore them.

Post # 15
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Pulsepoint129:  Welcome!

We’re way nicer than the “Snot” ladies!

(Especially if you keep it wedding related and avoid posts about the best age to get engaged/married/have kids or diamonds/moissanite. Those get a little ugly)

Post # 16
2627 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@Pulsepoint129:  scary! I’m sorry you had to go thru getting ganged up on like that! Where I am from, almost every couple has a ‘social’ to help raise money for the wedding. Dance, drinks, silent auction, 50/50 draw and a ‘perfume’ draw (legally you can’t raffle off alcohol).  I would never have even thought twice about asking questions about it, it’s such an integrated part of the experience! 

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