(Closed) Bratty girls that flirt with my husband (VENT)

posted 7 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Oh how rude!! I hope she was saying it in a joking manner and wasn’t serious because that’s really trashy. Sounds like your husband is doing the right thing though, and I’m sure he’ll continue to do so. Now that he’s married, I think people will get the message and back off.

Post # 4
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Busy bee

I say just ignore those girls, you are the one that got the great guy in the end.:)

Make sure you flash your sparkler in front of them to seal the deal! 🙂

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

That is absolutely ridiculous. But, if your husband’s a good looking doctor, chances are quite a few women will flirt a little. It’s obnoxious, but as long as he’s squashing their attempts to flirt, that’s all you can do. They’re just B*tches I guess, and some women like a challenge? Beats me!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

ughh that is annoying! seriously how immature can they be? i know how you feel tho. my FI is in the navy and women are always flirting and commenting on “how hot a man in uniform is”. I probably hear that comment daily. and i dunno if anyone else gets this… but his friends girlfriends are ALWAYS hitting on him right in front of me.. wtf?? Anyways, have you ever said anything to them when they flirt with your husband in front of you? I have… and its very liberating haha.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

well thats kind of ass backwards thinking eh??

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

@troubled: My husband is in a MD/PhD dual degree program too!!  I’m working on my PhD in a totally unrelated field, but at the same university.  But I must be at a muuuuch kinder school than you, because the girls in his program have been super welcoming to me and they would never DREAM of flirting with my husband.  I’m so sorry you’ve got such mean girls to deal with!  My husband is the only person in the early years of his program who’s married, and most of the others can’t even imagine being married right now.  I think for a lot of the students, they are a little bit socially stunted…the line from Grey’s Anatomy about how they just go to school all the time and don’t know how to do other things is probably true for some of them.  Maybe these girls are stuck in high school because they just haven’t had the time to grow up yet?  You don’t need any advice, because it sounds like your husband has shut them down very effectively!  Just wanted to shout out in solidarity to the MD/PhD wives!!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

My husband is tall (6’6″) attractive w/ pretty blue eyes.  Even though he has developed a BIT of a belly in the last few years, women flirt with him incessantly.  He loves to talk to new people, loves to be social & doesn’t really think that they are hitting on him, just chatting, so he sort of oblivious to the whole thing.

When I’m around it bothers me too.  I could be standing right next to him, and some girl will come up and flirt with him.. put her had on his arm, toss her hair, laugh at his stupid jokes… very obvious things.  Lucily he’s a little naive, and doesn’t catch on, so he won’t get himself in trouble, but I don’t trust a lot of women.  They don’t care if a man is taken, if they find them attractive, they will hit on them.  I don’t like it.

OP, if your husband is taking it in stride & not paying them any attention, you should feel pretty comfortable with the situation, you don’t have to like it by any means, but I have found that if you continue to bring it up.. it just annoys them.

My husband is incredibly loyal, he had an ex-wife who cheated on him & wouldn’t think to do the same – so by incinuating that he is flirting back, it upsets him.

Now I just walk up, put my arm around him, introduce myself & join in the conversation… usually breaks it up 🙂  You just have to be very confident about yourself & about your relationship!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I know how you feel! My FI is working on his Ph.D in Nuclear Engineering, and he also happens to be incredibly good looking! To me, at least. 😛 But anyway, I know for a fact that there are a few girls in his program that flirt with him, and I’ve been at a party with him where a girl flirted with him for ages! It happens at restaurants too- waitresses will hit on him with me right there. I don’t get mad though- because he’s completely clueless and he’s incredibly awkward so he tends to come off as a bit of a jerk at first. It definitely helps me out! 

I know my FI loves me very much and would never cheat on me (his ex cheated on him, and it really hurt him), but it’s other girls I don’t trust. However, I don’t bring it up because I don’t want it to annoy him since I don’t have anything to worry about.

Now when I see someone flirting with him, I usually put my arm around him, grab his hand or give him a kiss on the cheek to send the message he’s already found someone! 🙂

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Once during graduate school my husband actually was approached by a female student who said ” What can I do for you to get a better grade” wink wink nudge nudge.  Being the oblivious total nerd geek he was he said “well you could come do laundry, and clean the aparment so my wife and I can go out.”  Not the politically correct answer- but kinda nerd adorable.

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