(Closed) breakdown. insert profanities.

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

Can you have a yard sale and gain some extra $ by having one man’s trash be another’s treasure? 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I just want to say I can relate! Hang in there! If we can make it through this alive (and not flat out broke) we can make it through anything 🙂

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I hear you, I am crossing my fingers we get some no’s too!  Only yes’s so far but we’ve only got about 25 rsvps out of 130 (sent them out last week)… I am MASSIVELY stressed about our guest list.  Good luck!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Wow. Breathe in through the nose and exhale out the mouth. Hopefully, you’ll get some “no’s” but in the meantime, is there a way you can maybe cut back on the wedding like omit party favors or serve a more budget friendly meal? What i find helped me was to tackle and completely pay one necessary item at a time. That way it would just be a check off my list that I wouldn’t have to worry about later.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@BrideBrookie:  Girl, I hear you.  I feel the same.  I had a freakout about buying a flower girl basket ($25???) and ended up finding one at the dollar store, except that it was straw colored, not white.  Fiance had a can of white spray paint, so I spent 30 minutes in his hot, dusty front yard (in 90 degree heat, we can’t seem to catch a break on heat this summer), spraying the damn thing and inhaling god knows what kind of fumes.  And I got like 10 bug bites which are driving me crazy.  At least the basket looks ok now, but it was so much trouble I wish I had just plunked down the $25.  This is how the wedding industry screws us over–knowing that there’s no freaking place to find a flower girl basket except at Davids and you have to pay $$$$ for it.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

coupons at micheals, jo anns hobby lobby- all sell wedding items, depending on how the cashier is u may get lucky and get to use multiple coupons on item, but most of time u go through the line with one item one coupon and repeat for the next 2 hours bouncing from cashier to cashier, or store to store.

 

hang in there you will ahave a gorgeous wedding just breathe and and when it gets too much break out a glass of wine, have a hot bath shower and calm down

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@BrideBrookie:  Get rid of your full bar, honey. I know because you bartend you feel a responsibility to get everyone totally tanked but it will reduce your costs quite a bit. 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

we took out a personal loan of about 3,000.  That helped out a lot.  Yes we are still paying it back, but it totally calmed my nerves of wondering how we were gonna pull the money out of the air.  Good Luck to all of you still planning, it is crazy!  I had a meltdown about water bottles!  I forgot what oz. it had to be and what brand, but i had the whole family out looking for them.  Never did get the RIGHT water bottle (for my labels) and it didn’t freakin matter cuz no one even drank them and they left them all in the hotel!  Wedding planning sucks!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

Start repeating to yourself, “less is more.”

Re. the R.s.v.p.s – it’s common for the first ones that come back to all be “yes” – the people who know for sure they will be attending often respond right away. It’s normal for the “nos” to be a lot slower (or to not get returned at all). You’ll probably get a surge of “yeses” early on and again right around deadline time, while the “nos” will just kind of trickle.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@BrideBrookie:  Ya, you know what I mean?  I think having maybe beer, wine, and a sig cocktail (a REALLY good one that you perfect – maybe even have your friends vote on to get their buy-in) could really work out well for you guys.  And don’t worry, you will likely lose about 20% of those RSVPs.  Mine surged to 78 and one week before the wedding is at 60 and I’m sure we’ll have a couple of folks drop off at the last minute because they thoughth they could find lodging late in the game (impossible). Or at least, I’m hoping.  😉

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@BrideBrookie:  LOL, wow, that makes my basket spray painting like a walk in the park!  You are working so hard to make your event beautiful and memorable, I’m sure in the end it’ll all be worth it.  I bet the table numbers will be gorgeous! 

Do whatever you can to cut costs.  It’s not worth going into massive debt for a one day party.  Yes, weddings are special and wonderful occasions, but you don’t want to wake up the next day with debt hangover!  Definitely cut back on the alcohol–you are right in that since you’re a bartender, you want to give the guests all the drink options.  But honestly, it’s a great way to cut costs.  Like Willynilly suggested, beer and wine, and maybe a signature cocktail would be great, and guests will be satisfied with that. No one is going to bitch to you about not getting Ketel One or whatever during the reception.  And if they do, screw em!

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