(Closed) Breaking the plate

posted 5 years ago in Jewish
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I’ve never been to a wedding where they break the plate so I don’t know the tradition and rules but I don’t see why not. It’s your wedding and the people who participate should be the ones close to you

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

@MangoSong:  no it’s pretty jewish wedding normal. do you have a rabbi you can ask?

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I have never heard of this tradition — my brother didn’t do it at his. Can someone explain/link?

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

If you are reform, his aunt stepping in probably won’t be a problem. His father could probably even do it with your mother. Can you consult the rabbi conducting your ceremony?

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@MangoSong:  It is an orthodox thing. Honestly, consult your LOR (local Orthodox rabbi) but it really is more minhag (tradition) than halacha (law). You can do what you want…

 

HOWEVER, think about the feelings. You may not be close to her but by not asking his stepmother, will you offend his father and stepmother? I might opt not to do it. It really isn’t a must do (unless you want to).

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

this is so strange–my dad’s family is orthodox, my mom’s and dh’s family is reform, and I grew up in a conservative synagogue, so my experiences have totally run the gamut but I’ve never heard or seen this tradition! is it a Sephardi custom?

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@finnaroo:  Actually no! Ashkenazi. Sometimes done at the engagement or l’chaim.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@thdpr:  so funny then! I’ve been to so many ashkenazi orthodox weddings, I can’t believe I’ve never seen it!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@finnaroo:  You know, I have only seen it at my Chabad friends l’chaims! 🙂

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