Post # 1
We broke lots of wedding rules, and it was fine. None of our guests judged us for it. I really think that what’s acceptable depends on your circle of family and friends. When I mentioned some of the etiquette rules to my family and friends, they looked at me like I was crazy, so…
- We had guests rsvp by email, phone, or text. I even made an event invite on facebook to remind ppl to rsvp because we had a tight rsvp schedule. it helped a lot.
- cash bar: 1) we couldn’t afford to host 2) our families would have been mad if there had been no alcohol available 3) we didn’t have to worry about anyone getting too drunk and causing problems
- registry info on invite: ours was on the back before i found out that it’s against etiquette to have it on the invite, but we had already sent them out. no one cared.
I’m sure there are more, but that’s all i can think of right now.
What rules did/will you break? If none, this post is not for you.
Post # 3
i did the same thing about registry info by including registry cards with my invitations. i didn’t find out it was against etiquette until about a week after i mailed them. so far everyone i have talked to does not care nor did they know what i did was wrong. however, this is one rule i wish i hadn’t broken still because i am afraid of looking like i am expecting gifts and coming off as greedy. which is not the case.
Post # 4
We did not do any flowers except for Me, My Girls and the Hubby. None on the tables, for the parents, or grandparents. No one seemed to even notice.
Post # 5
@aandmklover: Me neither. And the flowers we did have in the bouquets and bouts were silk.
Best. Decision. Ever!
Also we didn’t do the father/daughter or mother/son dance because my dad isn’t in the picture.
Post # 6
-We had two of DH’s kid cousins there for ceremony and cocktail hour, and no other kids were invited (besides our nieces and nephews). No one commented about their kids being excluded.
– This is a stupid one, but we put “half past 5 o’clock” on the wedding invitation, instead of “half after 6 o’clock”. Apparently the wording we used is for funerals, lol.
@Sassy5412: don’t worry, I got the registry info with a wedding invitation recently and did not think anything of it 🙂 It sounds like that’s typical in your circle/region, so no one’s going to give it a second thought.
Post # 7
We invited some cousins and not others!!
We did not word our invitations according to who paid…
Post # 8
We’re going to let people RSVP online (gasp!) and we’re probably not going to do flowers for a bunch of relatives, either.
Post # 9
@PitBulLover: us too. i have WAY too many cousins that are so distant i wouldn’t even be able to match the right name to the face. they weren’t invited.
and our invites didn’t quite match the tone of the wedding. i designed them to match our theme and had them printed on recycled paper, but i printed the inserts on regular paper, lined the envelopes with wrapping paper from Dollar Tree (it was actually cute), and computer printed the addresses on the envelopes.
our bridesmaids wore long formal-looking dresses, while my two maids of honor wore short less formal dresses. they all looked beautiful.
Post # 10
Even though people say it’s tacky we’re having a cash bar. People have lashed out at this and teased us but I’m not drinking, Fiance doesn’t drink and I’m not paying for something that could potentially have our military privileges taken away if the guests get too rowdy off an open bar (venue is on military base).
Post # 11
@Kaitlin…I’m not normally for cash bars…but in your case it sounds like a must. The military privileges are too important to loose…good for you for sticking to your gun!