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How many of you bees are going to break tradition and let your groom see you before the wedding? How about in your gown before you walk down the aisle? How about sleeping apart the night before? I used to think all this stuff was silly and not a big deal until i got engaged and started planning. FI has NOT seen my gown, and i don't want him to see it until i walk down the aisle....and i know he will cry which in turn will make me cry. We also are getting separate hotel rooms before the wedding....i guess i just like following tradition.
Yes, we did a first look and slept together so we saw eachother the day of and he saw me in the dress before we walked down the aisle.
We went to the opposite extreme. My wife and I picked out our gowns together, so that we could get coordinating ones. We slept together (sharing a bed with two dogs) the night before. And we got ready together at the synagogue.
We're doing a small destination wedding. We'll be sleeping by each other the night before, parting ways part of the way through the day and probably doing a first look. We've been together for so long it just seems like it'd be hard for me to sleep without him there knowing he could be.
I'm doing a little bit of both... Keeping to tradition in that he won't see my dress until our wedding day, nor have even any hints about it; and in that we will be staying in different rooms the night before... I will be staying with all of my girls in 2 hotel rooms adjoining, one big sleepover before I'm a married woman :-) We're going away from tradition in that I want to do a First Look right before the wedding! I love looking at First Looks, they're just a special moment alone together the day of the wedding!
We will be doing separate hotel rooms, he has not seen my dress, and the first time he sees me that day will be when I walk down the aisle. We aren't doing a lot of traditions, but this is one we both agreed to do.
We had a first look type of photo where he got to see my dress in a private setting - well, as private as you can be with a photographer and videographer standing there, lol. We did it purely for timeliness sake - we were able to spend a lot more quality time at our reception because we did 99% of the photos before the wedding (not to mention we got LOTS of super amazing pictures, had more fun and it was less stressful because I had my best friend there with me).
Bella
We're doing a first look, and will be staying together the night before. Why not?
@ Statutory Grape - my thought exactly. We did the same thing. My parents (ok, my mom mostly) were against my staying at our house the night before but oh well. Our wedding, our bed and where I'm most comfortable - so we did what we wanted. :) Worked out great!
Bella
DH saw me in the dress 1.5 years before the wedding day b/c when I got it in the mail I was so excited I had to put it on! I made him zip me up!
We slept together in our house the night before so that we would sleep better.
He saw me on the wedding day before I walked down the aisle b/c we took pictures together before the ceremony. I hate waiting around after the ceremony for the bride and groom to finish taking pictures!
I wouldn't change a thing!
He has not seen my dress, nor will he see me in it until our first look before the wedding. We will be sleeping together the night before the wedding and spend the morning together before we separate to get ready for the first look. I don't want to wake up on my wedding day without him :)
I do not want to see him before the ceremony but my photographer said that if we don't do a first look, we will not get alot of pictures so I will be seeing him before.
I think we will probably spend the night together before, I might stay at my Mom's. We will get ready seperate and I don't want him to see the dress until I'm walking down the isle.
My FH and I plan to sleep in seperate hotel rooms the night before the wedding but will be taking pictures together the morning of! We wanted to have a private moment before we say our vows and the day gets crazy. Our photographer said he recommended it, providing we are open to the idea. Not to mention, it saves time after the ceremony, which in turn leaves room for more partying with the fam and friends!! ;)
We're also doing first look and photos prior to the wedding. But until that moment, we're not seeing each other.
It's Jewish tradition for us to see each other before the wedding to sign the ketubah, so we did. We did sleep in different places, but if I had to do it again we'd stay together. I think that would have made me a lot more calm.
My fiance and I will sleep in seperate rooms the night before our wedding because we're staying in our families' suites at the inn. We're absolutely doing a first look and pictures, including all family formals. Both of these decisions are for practical reasons, but I've never accepted the tradition of keeping the bride and groom seperate until the ceremony.
I would LOVE to do first look photos but neither my FI nor my mom are excited about the idea 
We slept apart the night before, didnt see each other that day until I was walking down the aisle and my husband had never even seen a picture of me in my dress!! I loved doing it this way! It made me soooo excited I just couldnt wait!! I wasnt nervous at all so I didnt even think of needing to see him beforehand! I talked to him on the phone at about 7 AM when I was at the grocery store telling him that I was going to pay for our cake and then we both said how excited we were and could not believe we were getting married that day!!
i would like to do the first look photos just so we are not rushed. i want to enjoy as much of the reception as possible, but i don't want my FI to see me before i walk down the aisle. he is totally against first look photos too, so i guess we are not doing them!
i plan on getting a hotel room the night before with my sister, we don't plan on seeing each other from when the rehearsal dinner ends to when im walking down the aisle at the church.
I will be staying at my parents house the week before the wedding and he will not see me until I walk down the ailse.
We're DEFINITELY doing first look photos. Not so sure about sleeping with each other the night before.
we're doing first look photos (there is NO way i'm missing the cocktail hour, it's my favorite part of a wedding) and staying together the night before. neither of us sleep well alone and i know it will be the most calming to both of us to be together. even if we didn't do a first look we'd still have to see each other before walking down the aisle because we're doing a ketubah signing. so no point in not getting the pictures done beforehand too.
We are waiting to see each other until I walk down the aisle. I love the idea of a first look but couldn't get away from the simple, sweet tradition of waiting. I just love seeing a guys face light up when he sees his bride. Can't wait!
We are most likely doing photos before our ceremony, since our ceremony won't start until 6pm. So yes, he'll be seeing me in my dress before I walk down the aisle :)
okay, so i know this may sound weird lol but we are going to be seperate the night before the wedding, but we ARE going to do a first look. I am so so so excited for it. I have a few friends that are wedding photographers and they all say that 100% of the time the grooms reaction is totally different when it's just you, compared to when he sees you walking down the aisle in front of everyone. We watch videos of first looks and both tear up, i know it's going to be a really special moment for the both of us. And it's something we'll have in photos and on video forever
I am doing the same thing and I am very excited as well :) I am looking forward to seeing him with out anyone around.
we'll be doing a first look at our reception venue before our ceremony; one of my bm's did that in her wedding a few years back and i loved the intimacy of the first look that they shared <3
We broke all the rules. We slept in the same hotel room the night before, and the entire bridal party took the majority of our pictures together before the wedding. Our ceremony was late in the day, and the ceremony/reception were in the same place, so it made the most sense. I'm glad we did it the way we did. I was super nervous about saying my vows in front of so many people, so it helped to spend the night together like we normally do. Plus, I knew I would lose it if the ceremony was the first time we saw each other all day. As it was, I could barely keep myself together, so I'm glad i wasn't a complete mess.
We did a first look and then did all our wedding pics before our 5:00 ceremony. That way there was no break between the ceremony and reception so our guests didnt have to fend for themselves for a few hours.
Seeing each other for the first time without a 100 people also watching you is much more intitmate...and its JUST as much of a surprise either way.
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When it does happen, I plan to stay with my SO the night before. I just sleep better with him there, and I want to be well rested for the big day. The inn we expect to book is pet-friendly, so we'll be bringing our cat too. I don't know if we'll get ready together though, but I like to imagine how romantic it would be to do so.
Oh...i forgot to say that we spent the night apart before the wedding. IT was easies....my mom and sisters were from out of town and he stayed at his parents so his mom could have her "little boy" home one last night :)
Oh...i forgot to say that we spent the night apart before the wedding. IT was easies....my mom and sisters were from out of town and he stayed at his parents so his mom could have her "little boy" home one last night :)
We will propably buck traditionand spend the night together as well as get ready (to a point--differing duties &etc) together.
I personally do not really see the big deal either way, it all depends on what each individual couple wants to do and is comfortable with.
We're going our separate ways after the rehearsal dinner, but we're doing a first look which we are both super excited about!!
My FI has already laced me up in a corset and spread out my 'back fat' to make sure that the dress fit properly. Sexy, huh?
(But I did get the 'holy shit!' look already when I came out in the dress in the store. I remember it. It's okay that it wasn't on film.)
We didn't see each other until our 1st look. It made it really nice to get all the pictures done before the ceremony.
we'll be spending the night apart- and he won't have any idea of what dress I get....
but we will be doing a first look before the ceremony. :)
We aren't going to sleep together the night before, (at least, not in the same bed!) and I'm pretty anti-first look, so....
Also, if a photog EVER tells you something like that, run. Any competent photographer will be able to get you HUNDREDS of shots to choose from. In fact, my boyfriend shoots weddings for friends, family and coworkers as an amateur (though he does have a good camera) and has yet to encounter a wedding where he didn't bring home a TON of pics. And that's just him shooting alone- many of the best photographers will bring an additional cameraperson (or two!)
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