Post # 1
I was with my ex for about a year when we decided to meet each other’s parents. My parents adored him. His parents didn’t see us together and thought we were wrong for each other. Needless to say, 1 week after the meeting with his parents we broke up. I was devasted and still am. It’s only been about two months since this occured. It’s hard enough getting over him when I know we’re good together, it’s his parents that are at fault. But we also meet through a group of mutual friends. So now we’re broken up but must still see each other almost every weekend or any birthday or anything. So how can I possibly move on when I still see him and all my feelings for him come back. Do I have to get new friends, which is kinda unfair? And he keeps saying he would like us to be friends. I’m afraid that if I allow him to be a friend my feelings for him will never go away. Any advice is appreciated.
P.S. In an ideal world, we would have never broken up but his parents hate me. And he thinks it will be impossible to change their minds. I still love him though.
Post # 3
time is the best closure i have found in my past relationships.
Post # 4
Is he willing to stay away from your mutual friends for a while?
Post # 5
In my past I fell hard for someone, and when we broke up, we were in the same small graduate program and had a ton of friends in common. The only peace I got was completely stepping away for a while. When I was finally over him, I started going back to the group events where I would run into him. Now we are friends – but you can’t be friends without the closure and distance first!
Post # 6
My college Boyfriend or Best Friend also broke up with me b/c of his parents. I’m not Catholic, and they hated that – they would never accept anyone outside of their faith. At first I tried to fight it, but eventually realized any guy who went with his parents on that instead of me wasn’t worth fighting for. I hope you can reach into your heart and feel the same way.
Post # 7
I believe that when you get married you and your Fiance become your immediate family and are each other’s first priority.
Now I know you guys weren’t at that stage yet but if he won’t fight for you even in this situation and fight for his parents to get to know you better I think you are better off.
Let your wounds heal and I am sure you will be able to be friends in time!
Post # 8
Oh, and also from experience – time heals all wounds. Try to avoid parties/gatherings where you know he will be there. You don’t want to show up at a party and see him with some other girl – no way, no how. And you need to totally cut him out for about a year before you can see him again. Good luck!
Post # 9
i agree with the others, it’s always best to just get him out of your life, other wise you won’t be able to move on. i’m sure your friends will understand if you don’t want to hang out with him anymore.
Post # 10
Let me also say that we were planning to get married this summer. Everything was set in our minds and we started planning. His parents came down (from another country) just to meet me. By The Way, his mom only met me twice before she made up her mind. I didn’t even meet his dad. I understand what everyone is saying iand it’s just hard. I wish I could wake up and stop loving him.
He did give up seeing our friends for a month. I think if I asked him to do he will. I just wish there was an easy way to stop caring for someone.
Post # 11
The best thing for your heart would be to get away from him. You have to take care of your heart so you don’t end up making the healing process take longer.
Post # 12
I wish there was an easy way hun, but there’s no such thing when it comes to healing a heart. He decided that he would not stand up for your relationship; therefore I would ask hip to step out and let you be with your friends without him there.
Also, it wouldn’t be bad for you to start doing things on your own and meet new friends, people that won’t know him and the couple that you were. Time and complete separation will get you through this, but it won’t be easy..
I’ll think about you!