Breaking up with your OBGYN…

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@graygodess20:  I’m not sure you even have to tell the OB directly, you can probably just call the office and request that your records be sent to the new doc. I’m sure its fairly common for couples have a preference about where they deliver! Don’t stress about it!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@kenziemt:  I agree.

 

Also are you just no comfortable with having students/residents taking care of you? If so you can specifically request that you don’t want any residents taking part in your care.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Just don’t go back? Your new OB will request your files be sent over.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I have been going to my OB/Gyn for about 7 years. If I were to switch, for any reason, I would probably have a conversation with him about it so he knew why I was leaving. Maybe that would influence his decision to start the process to expand his services to the other hospital (in time for the next baby), or maybe he can recommend a doctor that is credentialed at the hospital of my choice. Additionally, I would want to him to know how much I’ve appreciated his knowledge/expertice and that it isn’t personal.

 

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@graygodess20:  I would just call the office and have your records sent. They deal with this every day (I work in a clinic), so it won’t be a shock. If you want to give a reasoning you can, but don’t feel obligated to.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@graygodess20:  I am about to break up with my OBGYN… I am 34 weeks pregnant and he ending his priviledges at the hospital of our choice on 12/31. We toured the hospital he will be exclusively delivering at and let me tell you…. nothing like the hospital of our choice!!

I started seeing this doctor when I got pregnant so we dont really have any allegiance to him. I actually dont think he even really knows who I am when I come into my appointments lol. At this point I dont really care who delivers the baby… I just want to make sure we are at a nice hospital.

One major differences in the hospitals is that the one we like has 20 labor rooms while the other has only 4 which means you need to check in to the ER and wait for an open room. No thank you 🙂

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@graygodess20:  I am also with you on the 5 star resort hospital! The one we like has suites which is what we wanted to get to have space for my family who has to travel to see the baby. The room looks like a nice hotel room in one hospital and the other looks like a room my mother delivered in 30 years ago… haha One hopsital has a five star chef and another is conveniently located to outside restaurants. They have food but apparently most people choose to eat out. All of this is the same price too! That is what baffles me. I would think one hospital would be less money… like staying at a Motel 6 vs the Plaza.

Post # 11
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Helper bee

I understand your reasoning for wanting the most “luxurious” hospital, but perhaps you should wait until further along in your pregnancy to make that decision. (Not to be a Debbie downer…:(  The only reason I say that is because if your pregnancy ends up being “high risk” you will most definetaly want to be at an academic medical center. Overall, the drs that work at teaching hospitals are more knowledgable and up to date on current research and techniques. Just something to consider…Laughing I am BY NO MEANS saying that drs at the “cushy” hospitals aren’t as capable. You really need to consider your dr’s training and whether or not she has training in an area (like a sub specialty of OBGYN) that isn’t offered at another hospital. Drs work at certain hospitals for very specific reasons, and I happen to know that teaching hospitals are MUCH more selective with drs they hire. 

I hope this didn’t come off the wrong way. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

@lucyv2003:  Totally agree with you! 

Keep in mind that an OB resident is likely working 80 hours a week from day one doing deliveries, so they’re at their job and comfortable. Also the perk of a resident taking care of you during labor is that they will be there checking on you for your whole labor process, unlike a non-resident who may just show up at your delivery only. Plus the attendings have to be there anyway in case anything goes haywire, so a resident could be 9 years into their training and still be overseen by attendings. Of course the most important thing is you feeling comfortable, but just thought I’d give some insight into the residents to calm some fears if you really would prefer to stick to your current OB.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

@graygodess20:  I switched in the beginning of my pregnancy. It sucked, but I was honest. They were too far from my house to go regularly. Also, I am high risk and wanted a certain maternal fetal medicine doctor. She was understanding and they quickly faxed over my records. I’m sure it has happened before. It will be ok!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

@graygodess20:  I just realized you’re in PA! I’m in Philly and the hospital thing was a big part of it for me. Are you in Philly? I switched from a practice Bryn Mawr to Penn- obv choice! Same thing- all my testing is done in office vs having to go to the hospital for any tests. 

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