Breaking up with your photographer

posted 3 years ago in Photos/Videos
  • poll: What would you do?
    Keep your photographer, if you still like his work : (39 votes)
    75 %
    Opt for another photographer - it's important to have a good relationship with your photographer : (13 votes)
    25 %
  • Post # 3
    Hostess
    7630 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    You two already have a contract so I feel like it would be difficult for you to walk away at this point, even though he acted unprofessionally. I would probably take the discounted price but I would ask if we could meet before the wedding to “finalize everything,” drop off the final payment and (unofficially) clear the air.

    Post # 4
    Member
    1988 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    Hmmmm…. How come he’s now back with his discounted price when he was so angry at first? Have you talked more or has he just had the chance to sleep on it and calm down? 

    I think perhaps you made a mistake when you contacted other photographers while your contract was up in the air but I also think he was being a little overly dramatic (a male diva? lol). You obviously have a contract with this guy so opting for another photographer could end up costing you more in the end. Read the contract well and think about it. 

    Meet him up for coffee and try to clear the air, maybe your relationship isn’t damaged beyond repair. Good luck! 

    Post # 5
    Member
    995 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    @peonyinparis I don’t really see the point of this post because according to your contract you don’t have a choice but to work with him at this point… Unless you can suddenly afford to throw away the $7k you’ll owe for ditching him AND another $3k for a new photographer…you definitely shouldn’t have been inquiring around with other photographers before you even talked to him about this. That was really out of line, but his reaction was a little dramatic as well.

    Post # 6
    Member
    477 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @peonyinparis:  

     

    This isn’t a pointless post.  You (OP) asked some legitimate questions/request for opinions.   Here’s my take.

    Was it poor etiquette of me to enquire with other photographers while our contract was up in the air?  Yes.  I’m not a pro, but I wouldn’t have appreciated finding out that my contracted client was still shopping around.  I’d feel that she had told me a sob story to see how low of a discount I’d give her, whether or not it were true.

    Obviously I didn’t know they were friends, but should he have taken it so personally? No, it wasn’t professional of him, but professionals are people.  It sounds like he cooled off enough and is still willing to work with you at the discounted price, which I’d be really grateful for.

    Am I over-analysing this?  Yes.  It’s understandable that you’re shaken.  But as PPs have said, if you can, try to meet with him in person.  Have a smile on your face when you go, and show appreciation that he was willing to cut his price. If face-to-face isn’t possible, try to convey your excitement over the phone.  Being positive will help encourage the both of you to establish the rapport you are seeking.

    Should I just trust in his skills as a professional to produce beautiful work, regardless of how he feels about the couple?  At this point, given what you’ve told us, I don’t see that you have any other option.  I personally think you’ll be fine and that he’ll still do amazing, professional work.  Whatever happens, make the best of it!  GOOD LUCK.

    Post # 7
    Member
    995 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    @sarahuccs:  your response was better than mine…she did have some questions and your answers were good… I guess I just don’t see the point of the poll? If she’s being honest about the budget issue getting a new photographer isn’t an option anyway. 

    Post # 8
    Member
    477 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @PassionatePhotoLady:  Apparently the browser at my work sucks because I didn’t even see the poll!  Looking more carefully at my browser, I now do see part of it, but all the words are covered up.  LOL.

    I felt the OP was genuinely looking for some helpful insight in her post, but I agree with you: the contracted photographer appears to be her only budget-minded option.

    Post # 10
    Member
    592 posts
    Busy bee

    It was a very unprofessional response of him. It was a less than professional action he was responding too though. You probably should have waited to settle things with him before shopping around again. You didn’t have any bad intentions, but I can see how easy it would be to infer you were just discount shopping.

    It sounds like you’re stuck with it now. See if you can simply and succinctly clear up the miscommunication and thank him for his help and move on. 

    Post # 11
    Member
    995 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    @peonyinparis:  well I would be very careful. This photographer seems very well connected and his photographer friends (which seem to be many) are extremely loyal to turn down business for him. It didn’t sound from your posts as though he is going to let you off that easy AT ALL and there’s a good chance if you continue to disrespect him and try to find someone else he will blacklist you in the photographer community and no one who isn’t desperate for business will work with you. Not trying to scare you, just saying you need to be careful.

    Post # 12
    Member
    455 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @peonyinparis: I’m confused – why did you reach out to other photographers if you have a contract with your original photographer that will cost you $7k to break? What difference does it make what other photographers charge, if you’re going to be paying the $7k penalty on top of it?

    Post # 13
    Member
    1248 posts
    Bumble bee

    @peonyinparis:  I absolutely dont blame you at all for checking on the availability of other photogs. 3 months is a very short amount of time to book such an important vendor. I am on the same page with you right now about budget having to change due to unforseen circumstances, so I think being smart, not wanting to start a marriage in debt, it was good for you to reach out to him and find someone new. $5000 is A LOT to spend on a photographer. $2k is A LOT to scrounge up. I wouldn’t feel comfortable with having him as part of my wedding day. I’d ask him about cutting ties, while only losing out on your deposit. I bet theres some poor desperate bride out there who will scoop him up on your wedding day as soon as she hears hes available. Go with your gut ,and do what’s best for you & your FI.

    Post # 14
    Member
    225 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    It sounds like you’re dealing with children. Personally, I wouldn’t want to deal with all this crap and potentially feel awkward on my wedding day. If I had the option to book someone else I would in a heartbeat. But Like other posters have mentioned, you might not have that option anymore due to your contract. And if money is an issue losing the deposit and plane tickets could hinder you from finding someone else at an affordable price. Best of luck to you, I hope this guy learns how to grow up.

    Post # 16
    Member
    225 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    @PassionatePhotoLady:  I’ve never heard of this before but it’s making me sound like professional wedding photographers can be a bunch of bullies who take advantage of the wedding industrial complex. Thankfully a wedding is just one day.

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