Post # 1
While visiting with Mother-In-Law, the topic of BF-ing in public briefly came up. DH’s and mine’s stance on this are that we are all for BFing, but at least TRY to keep it private. I played devil’s advocate and made the comment that “People may say it’s a natural thing, what’s the problem?” MIL’s response, “Diarrhea is a natural thing too, doesn’t mean I want to make that public.” Love her!
I’m sure this topic has been broached (and of course it pops up in related topics, but lets bring it up again), but just curious what the hive’s thoughts are on BFing in public?
Post # 3
@CherryWaves: My childs needs will be more important then some random person I don’t know. Saying that, for my own dignity I would put a blanket over my breast and baby, I dont really want people staring at my breasts! If I was in a position to go somewhere quiet to do it, I would, if nature calls and its in public, I’d do it in a heart beat and cover my tits.
Post # 4
Breasts are viewed sexually by many people, I would cover them up with a blanket while feeding the baby…
Post # 5
I knew as soon as I found out I was pregnant I would breastfeed. I had no issues with it, except in public. We went to the beach one time and my daughter was hungry, there was no place I could go and I started freaking out a little bit. I went and sat on a bench and was ready to start the 20 min walk back to the car and just go. I had my daughter under a blanket even though I wasn’t breastfeeding at that point and a lady came over and said ‘aw how sweet! This must be the breastfeeding bench, I see so many moms on this bench.’ She was incredibly sweet and gave me the encourgement I needed. She had no issues and let me know moms do it all the time. I never had an issue again, my daughters came first.
Post # 6
@ShutterbugCait: I love your story! She is so kind to say that! Now you know that bench is “reserved” for Boyfriend or Best Friend moms!
Post # 7
I do not care at all. You want to cover up while you’re nursing? Cool. Don’t want to cover up? That’s cool too. I personally am an extremely modest person, so I’ll be investing in a Hooter Hider. But I also don’t wear revealing clothing and I loathe doctor’s appointments, so it’s less about thinking it’s indecent and more just in tune with my own personal comfort level. I think sometimes people just look for something to complain about. How about everyone focuses less on how mothers feed their infants and more on the mothers who abuse their kids or something.
Post # 8
I voted “It’s okay as long as they’re covered” but I know that sometimes that’s not possible. Personally, I don’t have an issue with BF’ing in public but it does make me a little uncomfortable to see it when a cover is not in use. That doesn’t mean the act is wrong, itreactions how I feel. Who knows, maybe that’ll change after I have a kid of my own.
Most of my friends have avoided feeding in public at all costs (they’ll go to their car, a fitting room, etc). They’re not comfortable doing it so they choose not to. On the rare occasion that they don’t have much of a choice, they’ll wear a cover if at all possible. However, I have one friend who would whip it out wherever she was. We could be at a restaurant and she would start feeding right there at the table. That even made our other BF’ing friend uncomfortable, let alone those of us who haven’t had the “pleasure” of experiencing that ourselves.
Post # 10
Uncovered breastfeeding is fine by me, I know some babies can’t handle being covered up. Might be wise to turn towards a wall to latch, though.
ETA-I’ve actually never even seen a woman breastfeed in public. I’ve also never had any family or friends who gave breastfeeding a fair shot…they all either gave up or never tried. Makes me sad.
Post # 11
@ThingsThatShine: I gave it my best shot for a couple of months and I would use a blanket in public… But I didn’t like the “bites” he gave me and the bruises that came with them! He can bite the nipple of a baby bottle so to spare me.
Post # 12
I don’t care if other people cover up or not. I would.
I can’t say I ever saw anyone whip them out in some random place in public though…. so I do not understand the issue.
Post # 13
I breast feed both mine in public. But I was always covered with a muslin wrap. That way light could come through for the baby but to the outside world I was completly covered.
I can’t say that I ever hand any complaints or anything. And my mother and I would regularly go out together.
Post # 14
I Boyfriend or Best Friend DS… and my stance was, “I don’t care who sees my son comes first.” If he was hungry than i would feed him. I tried to cover up but there were times when i couldn’t or that it would make him irritated (ie. when its hot outside or he wanted to look around).
If you don’t like it… don’t look.
Post # 15
I will attempt to use a Boyfriend or Best Friend cover when BFing in public but if for some reason I couldn’t use it then I will most certainly just whip em out lol. LO’s needs come before my need to be modest and others feelings towards public BFing.
Post # 16
I chose as long as its convered only because that’s what I would be comfortable with. I can’t imagine just whipping them out for the world to see…but I guess I’m a little more conservative than some. If someone else wants to do that, more power to em! 🙂