Breast implants 1 month before the wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: selfish of her? or silly of me?
    silly of you : (60 votes)
    32 %
    selfish of her : (126 votes)
    68 %
  • Post # 3
    10384 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I don’t know a lot about post-op, but it seems like she would still be very much in the healing stage with some pain a month out. Other bees – am I right? I feel like it would keep her from being able to dance/bounce around at all and thus keep her from having as much fun/celebrating as heartily with you.

    I think you should turn down taking care of her, that’s definitely too much right then. Perhaps if you turn down caring for her, she will see that it’s really bad timing, and put the surgery off by a couple of months?

    Post # 4
    1766 posts
    Buzzing bee

    In normal circumstances i would say your being silly…but a wk before your wedding is crazy. if she doesn’t understand…then u need to spell it out in black and white. she still doesn’t understand…drop her as a friend. she’s being really selfish.

    Post # 5
    563 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @HisNightOwl2014:  I would tell her you won’t be able to provide the care she needs post-op due to wedding preparations, but she should be able to fully participate in your wedding if she has a month to heal!

    Post # 6
    772 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I feel like a wedding shouldn’t be so involved that you couldn’t take a week to help a friend recover from surgery.

    Post # 7
    394 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    I think it’s a little crazy for her to ask you to take care of you that close to your wedding.  I also think it’s a little crazy for you to think she would put off her own surgery and wait until after your wedding.  I see both sides.  I would politely tell her you can’t do the post-op, since you’ll be busy getting ready for your wedding.  But, try to be supportive about her surgery.  I am sure it is something she has wanted for a while, and probably had no negative intentions against you when she scheduled it.

    Post # 8
    3570 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I think she can do whatever she wants with her body, but asking you to care for her before your wedding is too much.  

    Post # 9
    2831 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    one month out, she’ll still most likely be swollen and maybe a little uncomfortable still. but, that being said, it’s her choice to get them and when she gets them.

    i think it’s ridiculous that she thinks she can depend on you to take care of her, though. you’ll be a little distracted.

    Post # 10
    1773 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    She can do what she wants with her body, I don’t think her life choices should revolve around your wedding, but to ask you to take care of her is crazy ridiculous when you have a wedding to stress over! She should def choose someone else to help her heal.. !

    Post # 11
    716 posts
    Busy bee

    Agree with PP, it’s going to be so hectic for you before the wedding.  She should have the foresight to understand that you’d have a lot going on.  Support her emotionally but explain that you won’t be able to set aside that week.  If you have a chance, pop by and check in with her.  But you shouldn’t be expected to play nursemaid for her cosmetic surgery

    Post # 12
    5935 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    If your wedding date is correct, then she’s waiting a year to get this surgery. If she wants it so badly why doesn’t she just get it now? Seems weird that she has so long to do it but waits until right before an event she already has planned.

    Either way, I don’t think she or you are being selfish. You won’t have time to take care of her and she shouldn’t have to schedule her life around your wedding. Just simply tell her that you support her but you will be quite busy. Also, any alterations for her dress are on her to pay for.

    Post # 13
    2565 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Didn’t vote in the poll, because I agree with both options.  While she can do whatever she wants with her body, and maybe 1 month prior to your wedding is what works best for her to do this, I don’t think she would be fully recovered enough to enjoy herself at a wedding (not that I have experience with the surgery).  Asking you to take care of her for a week is weird.  Does she think you are going to take off work or something?  Cooking her an occaisional meal or bringing flowers over is one thing, but actually taking care of her for a week is an odd thing to ask of a friend.  Does she not have family or an SO that can take care of her?

    Post # 15
    3009 posts
    Sugar bee

    @likewoah:  WHAT??? It’s a wedding. There is so much going on those last few weeks- final details etc. Taking time to nurse someone back to health from an elective surgery is way too much to ask. I don’t understand why she is choosing to do this just weeks from your wedding. Ahole.

    Post # 16
    4576 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @HisNightOwl2014:  Her asking you to take care of her seems silly, but surgery a month before the wedding will be fine.

    I have no less than 20 friends I can name that have implants, and I think all but 2 said they were back at work and back to normal within a week. She’ll be fine with a month. No doubt in my  mind. Several of my friends who got them were coworkers and went to a doctor that administered pain meds through a small pump they wore around for a few days. One girl was out bra shopping 2 days after her surger :-p


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