Post # 1
I don’t know what it is like in the rest of the world but this is the way alot of mothers are treated here in the UK, it is drummed into you that you have to breastfeed or you wont bond with your baby and your baby will have a bad start to life.
I have 2 friends who have both had children 1 tried for two weeks which i respect her for because she nearly died during the birth of her son, she was breast feeding and fainted it was leaving her weak and drained so she told the health vistor she was switching to bottle feeding, her health visitor told her to just put someone on speed dial because if she quit breastfeeding her child would grow up unhealthy.
My other friend just couldn’t do it, her son wouldn’t latch on properly and her health visitor told her to just keep trying coz if she bottle fed she would not be giving her son the best start, she ended up being depressed and rang me more than once crying because she thought that she was a bad mam for not breastfeeding.
I really feel for mothers who are put under this kind of pressure, no one should be shamed because they choose/can’t breastfeed.
I am choosing not to breastfeed and god help any person who tells me that i am neglating my child.
Post # 2
nearly-mrs-R: I’m in the US and I think there is a lot of parent shaming in general, but as long as the child is happy and healthy, I don’t see how it’s anyone else’s business.
Post # 3
It’s kind of sad, but you’re judged if you breastfeed (look at all the public breastfeeding shaming going on in the US) and you’re judged if you formula feed. Just really sad it seems to always be the shaming of women that goes on…
As far as the article, it’s from the daily mail so… no one has to choose to breastfeed (choosing formula is perfectly fine) but plenty of people breastfeed just fine (almost 16 lb 4-month old daughter over here) and their babies thrive so this kind of article is a little sensationalist and fails to understand how breastfeeding works IMO.
For example… “At 10 days old Natalie Murray’s daughter Lyla weighed less than at birth” That is actually what is supposed to happen. Babies are born with extra fluids that they lose after birth, losing 7-10% of body weight is normal for a breastfed infant. They normally regain it by 14 days after birth but it can take a little longer. I’m terrible at math, but I tried to calculate it and her daughter’s weight loss was not over 10% and her 2 month weight was in the 25%, not exactly off the charts. So I would take that article for what it is…
But failure to thrive is a real thing, and parents should listen to their doctors if they recommend adding formula. Usually over here Dr.’s recommend formula if breastfeeding really isn’t working.
Post # 4
I do hate to read all the breastfeeding horror stories, because I think it scares new moms. I found breastfeeding to be a wonderful, happy, sweet experience. My absolute favorite part of being a new mother. I don’t think people should be pressured, but I do think they should make informed choices.
Both my kids lost about 10% of their body weight before they started gaining. It’s perfectly normal!
Post # 5
I take what the dailymail writes with a pinch of salt they are an awful newspaper, i just think it’s horrible that mothers feel under so much pressure to breastfeed. When my sister in law was pregnant she was deciding wether to breastfeed or not and her midwife was a horror, she was told the same thing as my other friends were “you won’t have the same bond if you don’t, your child will be un-healty” i just think mothers especially new mothers should be given the list of pro’s and con’s for both and they should make up their own minds without being shamed for it.