Post # 1
Soi I’m just going to get it out there right away: I am completely in the dark about any of it. This is probably the area I am most nervous about when it comes to having a baby. I know there will be someone to help me in the hospital on the feeding part, and I plan to see the lactation consultant after baby is born, but I need to gain some knowledge in the meantime so I don’t get too overwhelmed.
Now, when I say I know nothing I seriously know NOTHING. I just registered for all different size bottles because, well, they were there and they wouldn’t make all different sizes if you didn’t need them, right? I don’t know appox. how much a baby eats, if I should breast feed all the time or fill a bottle with breast milk and give it to him at some points, I don’t know how much you really pump daily or how to pump, I don’t know how to store breast milk (and if you freeze how to handle it) or how much to store or when it goes bad, I don’t know what to expect from myself when I breastfeed or pump, I know nothing. I need the absolute bare basics.
Heck, I didn’t even know you weren’t supposed to shake breast milk…and I actually felt quite stupid when that thread came about and people came on and were like, “OMG I can’t believe people didn’t know this.” Yeah, well, I seriously didn’t. Not that I would have had a reason to shake it, but seriously…I don’t know this stuff. Even the stuff people think a woman should know!
Any breast feeding/pumping mamas out there that can help me out with some resources that helped them? I feel I am too in the dark compared to other first time mamas.
Post # 3
I have no advice because I am nervous about the whole thing as well, so I want to hear advice. I feel clueless still, and I have taken a breastfeeding class!
Post # 4
you and me both woman. Lol. the whole pumping and storing milk in bags and then rubbing your boobs before pumping or something like that confuses me.
Post # 5
I don’t know how we WOULD know things like don’t shake breast milk, if you’ve never had a kid or breast fed!
I’m also planning to breast feed. I’m curious what tips the mom’s have. I’m pretty clueless on storage so far but I know a little bit. I do know that what I’ve heard about bottles is NOT to register for a bunch because your baby may hate all of them and then you are stuck with them. I think they say to pick a brand and register for the newborn ones and see if the baby takes them. If not, then you are only stuck with one type they don’t like and can try others. You can then buy the next steps in nipples as they eat more and get bigger.
At first I believe baby only eats max 2 oz ish each time, which is about every 2 hours, except for during growth spurts.
I do know I don’t plan to EBF, I plan to pump AND breast feed so that my husband can participate in feeding with a bottle (although I thimk most of the time I will bf). I’ve heard a lot that the concern of nipple confusion for the most part is bunk.
Oh and I’ve heard that the medela milk storage kit is a must have.
Post # 6
Books by Dr Jack Newman helped me gain knowledge before baby came, it helped, but I’d say I learned more with baby, in breastfeeding clinics, with friends that breastfed, and reading alot on forums while breastfeeding haha.
Each woman will pump different amount, and those amounts vary depending on the period of day, baby’s age, etc.
I never gave a bottle to baby, exclusively breastfed but for 3 days where he wouldn’t latch because of mastitis. I finger-fed him with a small tube.
You may pump manually (only with your hand) or with a pump. I like the automatic single by medela, did the job for me. Altough all the milk I froze went bad, and anyways he would NOT take a bottle, so yeah.
Post # 7
Here is a link to a blog that was my single most important pumping resource:
There is also a facebook group called WTE exclusive pumpers, but it is not limited to people who pump exclusively. They are a very inclusive, welcoming, and open minded community full of tips and resources.
Breastfeeding is hard. It does sometimes hurt even if the latch is correct as your nipples get used to it. It shouldn’t hurt to the point you get bleeding, cracked, or blistered nipples. If it hurts really badly, get in touch with a post partum doula or lactation consultant for further help.
La Leche League can also be a great local resource and some chapters (most? all?) have monthly meetings as well. Be aware that some LLL groups are almost militant about nursing specifically though, and as an EPer I felt … not judged per se, but not really included.
A supportive DH/SO is also crucial to your success. You will need someone to bring you a sandwich and a glass of water!
I am not sure I remember every little thing about my nursing/pumping/weaning journey, but I absolutely don’t mind sharing- if you have questions feel free to ask!
Also, Iarebridezilla posted a great thread about her breastfeeding jourey as well.
Just remember, if it doesn’t work out you are not a dud or a bad mother. It is hard, but most of the time with the proper information and support, you can be successful 🙂
Post # 8
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I’m breastfeeding and pumping for my six week old.
I recommend taking at least two classes on breastfeeding and reading all about it. I did this, and I still didn’t know my daughter wasn’t latching because I was engorged.
Ideally, youll nurse exclusively for the first month, then add one bottle of expressed milk every other day. i didn’t do this. Because of my oversupply, I started pumping in the first week. You pump what your boob provides and give baby whatever that is. My husband loves to give bottles, so I nurse all but one or two feeding a so he can feed her, too. If youre going back to work, it’s obviously important to introduce the bottle.
For storage, I learned from the instructions that came with my pump. Haha
youll figure it all out. Don’t worry. I just about have a lactation consultant on speed dial. But, after the first week, it all got easier. By week three, we were golden.
Post # 9
Honestly, google is your friend. When I had my daughter, I was totally in the dark about all of it. It really all came naturally as far as how to do it. The nurse showed me once or twice how to do it and that was that. I never had to see a lactation consultant. I think I was lucky in that I never had any pain while breast feeding. I never needed creams or anything like that. Once I started pumping though I only bought 8 oz bottles since they only need the small ones for such a short time, 8 oz lasted longer for us. As for how much baby eats, it’s all relevant. And you’ll get the hang out it once baby comes. Freezer bags are awesome, I’d recommend laying them flat in the freezer to freeze because it takes less space and bags are less likely to break when you thaw them. I saw something on Pinterest about freezing breast milk and storing it in a gift bag so that’s what I did. The reason you’d want to shake breast milk is because the fat in the milk will separate and look chunky compared to the liquid part, shaking it causes the enzymes in it to break up or something like that so it’s best to just gently swirl. I can’t think of anything else…if anyone has questions feel free to ask!!!
Post # 10
La Leche also has a website with great information on breastfeeding.
Post # 11
@MsJ2theZ: See I just figured out what EBF meant, lol. And I guess that is my plan too is to not exclusively breast feed because I want Darling Husband involved. He wants to get up in the middle of the night and feed the baby, so I want to be able to have that available to him.
@DaneLady: Haha I was hoping you’d chime in! I knew you posted a website before, but I forgot it. I book marked it so I don’t forget. I read both you and iarebridezilla’s stories, and I loved them both. I am prepared to accept the fact if I can’t breast feed. I just can’t get over how much there is to know and how in the dark I am!
Did you breast feed exclusively for a certain amount of time or did you give BabyDane a bottle right away (meaning, for instance, I want to breast feed majority of the time but have a bottle on hand at night so Darling Husband can get up and feed the baby since he wants to, and I’d like to do that within the first few days)?
@Mrs. Gremmlin: Thank you. All that information helped, and it’s good to know that the pump comes with instructions on storage.
@Ninteenthchance: That is where I was confused on bottles. I registered for all the sizes (except the really small ones) but I was like, “Why can’t I just buy the big bottle right away, full it with however much milk I have and be done? Why the extra bottles?” Thanks for the tips of freezing milk. That was really helpful as well.
Post # 12
I think you’re doing the right thing by trying to learn as much as you can now. I took a class (just one) and read a bunch online but I think where I learned the most information was at the hospital when it was “hands on.”
Breastfeeding doesn’t come easy for everyone. It was extremely hard for me and I ended up exclusively pumping very early on. It wasn’t my plan, but the stress of trying to get my LO to latch wasn’t good for me or the baby so this was the next best thing. I had lactation consultants come out more than once but it just wasn’t happening for us.
My advice is to continue your research but also mentally prepare yourself if things don’t go as planned. I really didn’t think I would have any trouble breastfeeding so when I did I took it very hard (the post-birth hormones didn’t help). Once I got used to pumping though, everything was good. And Darling Husband could even help with the feedings which was amazing.
Good luck with everything!
Post # 13
@megz06: that’s what I always did!! Sometimes I’d have only one or two ounces in an 8 oz bottle but it worked for us!
Post # 14
@megz06: You should contact the lactation department at your hospital and ask about breastfeeding information classes that you can take before the baby is born. Good luck!
Post # 15
@megz06: I was with you – very overwhelmed by the whole Boyfriend or Best Friend thing. Luckily, I have my sister to help! I found reading through resources on kellymom.com to be very helpful though.
Bottles – I only have 4oz bottles right now and bought a 2-3 bottles in 3 brands (avent, medela and nuk) to see which baby likes best. Once I figure taht out, I’ll go buy more (and also get some bigger sizes). The 4oz should be fine to start though. You aren’t techically supposed to save breastmilk that hasn’t been eaten. So, if you pour a 4oz bottle and baby only eats 2oz, you shouldn’t be saving it for later. So, if you’re pumping, I say start with a small bottle and give a second if baby is hungry when it’s gone so you aren’t wasting hard earned milk!
The general consensus is no pacifiers/bottles should be introduced until Boyfriend or Best Friend is well established. But, I think this will be really different for every baby. My plan is to try a bottle around week 2-4 if Boyfriend or Best Friend is going well.
There are lots of rules around storage of Bridesmaid or Best Man, how long it can be frozen, refridgerated and stored at room temp for. My sister goes by the 5-5-5 rule (5 months frozen, 5 days in fridge, 5 hours room temp). I think these recommendations can vary though. Your breast pump should come with a booklet that tells you though.
I definitely recommend taking a Boyfriend or Best Friend class. If there isn’t one offered at your hospital, check out local baby groups or specialty stores. I believe some Babies R Us and Motherhood stores offer classes, too. See if you have a local la leche league, as well. Definitely asks tons of questions in the hospital about both Boyfriend or Best Friend and pumping. They have pumps there so can probably teach you how to use it.
Definitely read as much as you can – I’ve become a lot more comfortable with the whole idea just from reading about things that I google. At the end of the day though, you’re just going to have to kind of figure it out as you go along! You’ll catch on quicker then you think I’m sure.
Post # 16
@megz06: I nursed exclusively for 3 weeks, but BabyDane wasn’t gaining weight as quickly as she should (she fell asleep everytime she nursed, and didn’t get enough, I also didn’t empty enough so my boobs hurt alllll the time) so we started doing bottles and nursing, which devolved to pumping and bottles only because I was just SO over nursing.