Post # 1
I visited a bridal store for the first time yesterday but when I walked in the door the woman asked if I was there to look for my prom dress (even though I had booked a bridal appointment). That would mean i look 15! Then the girl who was helping me try dresses on asked me how old I would be when I get married (23) and said “ohhhh that is young” – and then told me she got married last year aged 24!
The same thing happened last month – I paid the photographer’s deposit via bank transfer and the bank assistant pretty much did this face and said “oh… you are getting married?”
I’m so excited to get married (to my boyfriend of over seven years) but it is starting to grate on me a bit that people keep commenting on my age/how young I look! I laugh it off when people say it but it’s making me a bit worried that I’m going to look like a child bride!!
Does anyone else have this problem? If so, how do you deal with it?
Post # 3
I legitimately look like I’m 16! I just laugh it off and don’t offer any apologies. And make sure to act confident of my age haha. If I just smile and say, “Yup, I look like a baby bride!” people usually accept it with a good attitude.
As for looking like a child on my wedding day – I am keeping that in mind when I pick out my styles. My dress is a sheath, my hair will be updo, and hopefully my makeup will be very elegant. But after a certain point, there’s only so much you can do!
Post # 4
I get the other way around, haha! I never get carded, and the new dishwasher at my job asked if I was married and had kids! I’m 20!
Post # 5
Yup I get it all the time, I’m 20 so it is a bit young, but he is 23 so whatever. We may be young but we know what we want and we have been through more than a lot of people our age including 2 deployments.
Post # 6
I get this too. When I have met with vendors with my mom (I’m 22, she is 52) people will ask “so which one of you is the bride?”
I am young and I look young, but I don’t think I look THAT young. (though, at my brother’s graduation last year, We were having dinner with his roommate and his family, and the roommates dad asked me what year I was in school. I said a Junior and he asked if I had gotten my drivers liscence yet. He thought I meant a junior in high school!)
its weird but if people treat me rudely because of it, I just choose a different vendor. Fortunately my photographer got married at my same age (she is 24, and we’ve actually become friends) and most of my other vendors dont seem to ask/care
Post # 7
I look pretty young too. I subbed at a high school, and when I went to the office to check in, they thought I was a new student. Oops! And this week I was working concessions at a basketball game, and the softball coach asked if I was going to be his new pitcher… He thought I was the 14 year old daughter of the woman I was working with! She laughed and told him no, I was one of the other kindergarten teachers.
Post # 8
@musician32992: I remember one mother’s day i got asked if i had any kids. I was only 19. I was telling a classmate that my family wasnt super happy I got engaged so young, she thought I was 25 and so was confused why i thought that was young.
Post # 9
@Mrscdnnavywife: I guess it’s not totally crazy though. A girl in my high school graduating class just had her third kid.
Post # 10
I’m at the opposite end of the spectrum. I was an “early bloomer.”
When I was 13 I went out to a nice dinner with my parents and a group of their friends and was handed a wine list. My mom freaked out and asked the waiter, “How old do you think she is?”
He said, “Well, now that you said that… 17 maybe?”
My mom said, “NO! She’s THIRTEEN and NOT DRINKING ANY WINE.”
I look almost the exact same as I did then however (I’m 23 now) so I feel like I finally for the first time look my age haha
Post # 11
@jazzy14: Haha thanks girls, I’m glad I’m not the only baby face around here! I’ll just laugh it off and then be quietly smug that I’m so youthful!
Post # 12
Not anymore (unfortunately!), but back in 2002 when I took my younger sister to get her hair done for her public/grade school graduation, the hairdresser immediately asked me to hop in the chair, and started asking questions about what I wanted. I was 19 at that point, and could only get her to believe my age when I pulled out my student card (from college). She assumed I was 13, and my sister was 11 or 12.
DH and I used to get a bunch of glares when we first got together, as well. On top of looking young, I am also 5’2″, so being seen with a 6′ guy with a beard/mustache must have weirded people out, lol.
Post # 13
I attended a public hearing recently of my local county commission. The commissioner from my district was out in the seating area introducing himself and shaking hands. When he got to me, he said, “Nice to meet you, young lady.” I’m 30. And the commissioner didn’t know it, but I’m married to the annoying little kid who lived next door to him 25 years ago.
Post # 14
- Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California
I’m also 23, but I know I don’t look it ..at all. I was once with my 15-year-old sister & someone thought she was older & I was the one in high school :/. I accept it & make sure I always have my ID on me when we go out & just laugh it all off. Hopefully when I’m 50 I’ll still look “young” & be grateful for it then ;]
Post # 15
Well, FWIW when you go to prom you’re closer to 17/18 than 15 lol.. but anyway
I’m an attorney, I’ll be turning 29 this year, and I’ve been practicing for 3 years. Two days ago, I met someone in the courtroom after I had been on the record talking to the judge and that someone said to me, ‘Are you old enough to be a lawyer?!’ Uhm, no I’m just here for shits and giggles, the judge just allows it to happen.
At my previous job, I walked into the courtroom and past the part where the audience sits (all the benches) and into the part where the attorneys sit when they’re on trial/on the record, and a court officer stopped me and asked me who I was. I mean, I was in a suit, walking in with one of our files (that he should recognize). I showed him my ID and he said, “My god, I thought you were my daughter’s age.” And turns out – he was just talking about his daughter prom dress shopping.
So… Yeah.. I think it’s worse to be told you look too young to be a lawyer when you’ve been one for 2-3 years already lol. And 23 is young to be married in some places, but I love how the girl who was 24 when she got married thought 23 was too young LOL. Or maybe she just thought she was really young when she got married, too??
Post # 16
- Wedding: September 2013 - The Skinner Barn
@Sparkly_Snowflake: I had a vendor ask me if I was old enough to sign a contract or if I needed my guardian to do it. I’m 22. I drove here, on my own, and handed you a credit card with my name on it. Yes, I’m old enough to sign a damn contract.