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    moon7043    October 17, 2008   San Francisco

    Hi fellow brides...

    I'm not sure if this is bad form or not but I found THE dress.  I've visited the bridal salon 3 times to make sure.  Once on my own.  Once with my bm and Once with my Mom.   I want to order it this week from the salon but I found the dress online but it was $200.00 cheaper!

     1) Is it bad form that even though I went to the salon on three separate occasions to order the dress online?

    2) I don't know my size in the dress.  I didn't fit the Salon's sizing and they won't measure you till you purchase at the store.

    3) what can/should I do as an alternative so I'm not a crummy bride? 

    Thanks everyone

    Christine

     
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    caitlanc    September 12, 2009   Western Slope of Colorado

    Personally, I would get it from the store.  If I needed a cheaper version of the dress I would look to buy it used.  Supporting local businesses is important to me and I don't trust that the online manufacturers are ethical in the way they treat their workers or whatever else. 

    Think of it this way, someone is getting short changed somewhere along the way.  You just have to decide if the discount is worth it to you. 

    (This is also coming from someone who doesn't value her dress all that much and will be getting a white bridesmaids dress for less than $300.  Take what I say with a grain or two of salt.)

     
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    RIbride    May, 2009  

    My feeling is that it maaaay be considered bad form by some...but in my honest opinion, I wouldn't care if I were you.  You have never been under an obligation to buy that dress from that store.  There was never a guarantee that you would buy it and never a guarantee that you wouldn't find another that you liked more somewhere else.  Yes, they have given you their attention on the occasions you were there, but not to sound harsh, but that is their job.  Another alternative is to tell them straight out that you found it cheaper somewhere else, but that you would really like to give them your business since they have been so nice to work with.  They will probably match the price rather than lose the sale.  Good luck! 

     
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    Habibi      

    Have you asked the salon to match the price you found? $200 off is not much to a bridal salon. I would go back, tell them you love it but you need $200 off for it to fit your budget or you want a $200 credit towards a veil etc. Don't tell them about the website b/c most bridal salons don't take kindly to being compared to a website. If they aren't willing to work with you on price or throw something in free of charge they probably don't want your business.

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    lreighard1    8/22/09   Washington, DC

    I second Habibi -- see if the salon will match the price and if not try to find another salon that carries you dress that will (or maybe has it cheaper?)  good luck!

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    LatteLove    June 19, 2009   Chicago/San Diego

    my advice would be to wait for it to go on sale (or to ask the bridal store for a discount).

    Can you also go to other bridal salons to compare prices?  There might be another place that has the same dress.

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    tessabella76    September 12, 2009   Ohio

    I had the same dilemma and in the end I ordered mine from the bridal shop. My reasoning-if I ordered the dress online, I would have to store it somewhere-my dad's house, my FI's parents house, or our house and risk my FI seeing it. And if, heaven forbid, there was a theft, fire, flood, ect., I would be out that money and have no recourse. But by spending about $200 more, I can leave the dress at the bridal shop until the week of my wedding and be secure in the fact that if any of the above things happen, they have to replace my dress or refund me the money. So I'm spending a little more but I have the added security of knowing my dress is safe.

     
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    Tanya123      

    I'm not sure it's a huge deal, but you never know ordering stuff online.  If there is a problem, you can't physically go to the busniess to get the matter solved.  It might be OK ordering books from Amazon, but I don't know about a wedding dress.  I do  also agree with supporting local businesses.  Our economy needs all the help it can get.  A lot of the discount dress websites are from overseas (China mostly).  And  a lot of times the pictures you see on the website are pictures from the actual manufacturer.  But what the name behind the website does, is make the dress for you, as a copy.  Sometimes they use inferior materials.  Sometimes people luck out.  Sometimes they don't.  What is the website?  Try googling it to see what customer reactions have been.

    But I also think competition is good.  Telling the salon you found it cheaper and asking if they'd give you a discount might work. 

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    BonnieBon    05/22/09   St George Island, FL

    I don't think you should feel obligated to buy from them just because you have been in there three times. Customer service is their job so don't feel guilty about it. If you have found a better deal I would see if they will match it or like the other post said, give you credit towards a veil or something else. It never hurts to ask and then weigh your options but do not purchase because you feel bad about hurting their feelings. I highly doubt they will feel bad about hurting yours if they choose not to give you a discount....just something to think about!

    Those darn dresses are overpriced anyway!

     
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    moon7043    October 17, 2008   San Francisco

    Thank you so much for your advice.  I'm such a chicken when it comes to asking for discounts but I guess I have to suck it up. The worst they can tell me is no right?

    You guys are awesome!

     

     
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    MissCremeBrulee    05/30/2010   Chicago, IL

    Most of the bridal salons I went to said they would match online pricing!  Definitely just ask or alternatively, ask if they expect it to be on sale (or have a sample sale) anytime soon...they may just knock off $200 for you!

     
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    happilywaiting       Massachusetts

    @moon7043 - If you are a little squeamish about asking for discounts (my guy is like that too), perhaps bring a friend/sister/BM/mom who is more outspoken to help out.

     

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