Post # 1
My mom saw a printout I had on the table earlier of the bridal bouquet that I want, along with the bouquets for my bridesmaids. She asked if the bottom one was for me for my bridal bouquet, and I said yes. She told me I wasn’t supposed to pick it out, that my FI is supposed to surprise me with one. I disagreed, telling her that my FI would have no idea what I’d want in a bridal bouquet. He’s great at coming home from running errands, surprising me with a pretty bouquet of flowers just because, but those are also bouquets that are already made, that come from a limited assortment at the grocery store.. haha. (Hey at least he doesn’t steal roses from his best friend’s mom’s backyard garden on his way over to my house like my ex would do!)
He would have NO CLUE what to do if he had to go to a florist & try to describe what he wanted. He just doesn’t have an eye for that sort of thing (ie when I asked him about what his preference was between 3 different cake designs I had narrowed it down to, he shrugged & said “to be honest, I don’t really see much difference.” I thought there was a pretty significant difference! haha. My mom disagreed with me because I guess technically a) The groom is supposed to pay for the bride’s bouquet, and b) My dad surprised her with her bouquet. That being said, my dad is not like most men. He LOVES to decorate and really has an eye for it, and is able to design & put ideas together very well. Probably why he loves party planning. Also, our wedding is 6 hours away from where we’re living right now, where all my family is from, and he’s never back here with me since it’s hard for him to be able to take off work. So, I’m not sure how he’d be able to place a custom order for a bridal bouquet like 3-4 days before the wedding anyway!
Anyway, I just wanted to get the Bees feedback on how the bridal bouquet is going down.. are you picking it out? DIYing it? Is your FI paying for it, are you buying it? I have a friend who is a florist, and she was going to help me make the bouquets if I bought the flowers & arranged them myself. Thus, I’d be paying for it, which isn’t a big deal at all since I’d be buying them wholesale anyway. Sigh. All of these “Supposed to” things are beginning to drive me nuts!
Post # 3
Actually I’ve never heard of the FI picking out the bridal bouquet. Maybe its an old tradition? I agree with you, my FI would have NO IDEA on how to pick that out (and be good with it). Pictures, descriptions, and all these other girly things he wouldn’t give a rats behind about. lol
We both actually picked it out together (rather I picked it out, he was there and agreed … as he played on his Iphone until we got to boutinniers) lol
Its not dyed. We’re using hydrangeas with accents of calla lillies (and something else, its been so long I’m not even sure I remember anymore!) lol We finalize it within 3 weeks actually.
As far as payment .. thank you FMIL. 😉
Post # 4
Say what?! I’ve never heard of the groom choosing the bouquet. If I let FI pick mine, it would be horribly hideous! I most certainly am choosing my own bouquet.
Post # 5
Haha, I haven’t heard anything recently about the groom picking out the bouquet in this day & age, since all the wedding blogs & stuff you see when the bride talks about flowers, include inspiration pics for her bridal bouquet. I guess it is an old tradition, one that I am NOT okay with doing.. haha.
I guess this is what my parents did, and in some little wedding planning guide I got at a bridal show, it said that this was traditionally part of the groom’s responsibilities with regard to what he should be paying for. I think it’s a little silly..I feel like if I’m buying all the bridesmaids bouquets why shouldn’t I just buy my own bouquet!
I think my parents have a skewed perception of what my FI “should” be doing to surprise me etc… since my dad did all of that, but like I said before, he has an eye for design & everything, so it probably came out pretty good. I feel like back then brides probably didn’t really deviate much from standard white flowers, either, would be my guess, which would make the whole groom picking out the bridal bouquet a bit easier. Good to know I’m not alone in thinking this is a crazy idea!
Post # 6
haha i wouldn’t trust a groom to pick the flowers! I chose mine and paid for them myself.
Post # 7
never heard of that…. and would NEVER do that. I think my FI could handle it but i am too much of a control freak to let that happen.
Post # 8
I can’t imagine letting someone else pick out my bouquet! My wife and I picked ours out together, since we wanted matching ones.
Post # 9
I’m picking it, although I have ask him for his opinion on what he has liked.
Post # 10
I picked my own, as FI doesn’t really care about the flowers. I can’t imagine letting him pick it out, and I don’t think he’d even want to! Can’t say I’ve ever heard of that before!
Post # 11
Oh gosh, I can only imagine.
I *think* FI would do a good job and put the effort in to make it look good…but then again I have to match his clothes someday. Hmmm…
Well, never heard of that. Perhaps it’s a tradition best done away with!
Post # 12
I’ve never heard of this either, and I would NOT want FI picking the flowers.
My Mother is actually paying for our flowers as our wedding gift. But I’m picking them.
Post # 13
I am picking my own bouquet (along with all of the other flowers). My FI doesn’t care about flowers, so why should he stress over picking out something that I’d have fun choosing?
My FI is also not paying for the flowers.
Post # 14
I’ve read about this before when looking at who traditionally pays for what. We are definately not doing this.
Post # 15
I’ve heard that it’s tradition that the groom PAY for the bride’s bouquet, but not pick it out. Perhaps that’s what she meant?
Post # 16
I have heard of the tradition of him paying for it, but no, I picked out my own bouquet. Honestly he would have been completely lost had I left it up to him! lol