Post # 1
- Wedding: April 2015 - Anchor Inn, MD
I just made an appointment at a dress shop and as I was hanging up, they told me that they ask that I limit it to 4-5 people since they’re busy on weekends. I was planning on having 8 though (5 bridesmaids, mom, MIL-to-be and myself). Fiance thinks I should just go with everyone despite what the store said rather than exclude people. I was really hoping to have everyone there — especially so the bridesmaids can bond a little pre-wedding, and maybe even look at bridesmaids dresses while we’re there. Would I be a jerk to bring everyone? The reason why I picked this particular day is because my future SIL/bridesmaid is from out of town and was going to be here, so if I schedule it a different day then I might as well just exclude people to hit their 4-5 person limit. Ugh, what to do, what to do…
Post # 2
The reason they normally suggest a smaller number is because if too many people come it gets to be too many opinions. I would honestly not invite so many people, the more the opinions the less confusing it is for you.
I understand wanting to have all your bridesmaids look at dresses but I can honestly say I would not recomend it. When I bought my BM dresses just my mom, FMIL, and MOH looked (same day I bought my dress.) We all were in agreement of the dresses and love it! WE did take into consideration the other girls though.
When I went with a friend, she took her mom, and 2 other BM (3 total with myself), this was a complete mess! The bride ended up not getting the dresses she liked because one BM kept complaining she didnt like them.
I think the smaller the group the better.
Good luck though with whatever you decide!
Post # 3
Oh, another reason they want you to limit people is literally because of space. Normally there is more than one appointment going on at a time and there is only one viewing area (at least in every salon I have been in) and if each group brings double the amount of suggested people it gets hard to give everyone some space.
Post # 4
I work at a bridal store and I totally understand their request. Not only for space, but when dress shopping, the fewer people the better FOR YOU. It’s the whole “too many cooks in the kitchen” thing.
Also, please don’t assume you can just look for BM while there. Unless you told them you want to, they probably didn’t schedule extra time for that.
Post # 5
If they told you they limit groups on the weekend because they are busy, it’s because of space issues. You will look like a jerk if you show up as a group of 8 and the shop may tell you they can’t accomodate you if there isn’t the space. Take a smaller group with you to this appointment, and if you can go on a weeknight you might be able to bring more.
Post # 6
JMer711: I understand the space concern. However the first time I went dress shopping I had 6 people with me and one on facetime. I told the consultant and the girls I was there to strictly try on dresses for the first time and see what I felt good in. It was a lot of fun and I found a “dress to beat” according to everyone else even when in y heart of hearts I knew it wasn’t what I wanted.
So keep an open mind and if you’re really worried about it call them back and explain the situtation just to get a vibe on why they asked you to limit your party size.
Post # 7
chances are not everyone will be able to make it anyway. Take your mom and your MOH then when you do buy a dress take your BMs and MIL in to see you try it on/get measured/etc.