Post # 1
So everytime I try to talk to someone about my bridal worries all I get is “You are making it too much about the wedding and not the marriage.”
First of all, what! I feel like I should be worried about the wedding – especially since I am putting money toward it, right?
Second here are my worries because I have been spending time crying over EVERYTHING – I have a month till the wedding and nothing seems right.
1) Where did all the money go! I have been so stressed about money! What did you brides do!? Did you have enough money…did you feel poor after you got married???
2) FI is not being very supportive – I mean he is but isn’t…HE IS BEING A GUY about everything!!! What do I do…We already got into an argument about all my worries and all he has to say is, “Oh it will be fine…” FINE does not help with anything!!! Tell me more than just fine!
3) Parents are not going to the wedding and that is stressing me out bad. I thought the more I accepted it the more it won’t hurt…but it hurts. BAD. What should I do with that! I mean, how can parents NOT be there at the wedding.
4) wedding favors, I am having a wedding buffet but I feel like that is not enough for our guests – thoughts?
5) bridesmaids and groomsmen gifts…. is there a price limit?
6) everything just feels like it is not going according to plan I am scared.
What can I do!? What should I do!? I feel like I cant even breath!
Post # 2
1. Do you have a budget?
2. I think 90% of brides have the same issue. Have you thought of giving him one or two jobs to do for the wedding that are his alone and that will ease the burden on you.
3. Why are both sets of parents not coming to the wedding? Is this of importance to the both of you? If it is what can you do to make sure they attend?
4. Forget the favours if you cannot afford it.
5. Set a budget and then shop like you would for their birthday. The gift should be what you can afford but meaningfu/useful to them. It no good spening $20 on something that will be thrown out or shoved in a drawer.
6. Write out a plan. List what still has to be done. It may look daunting at first but when you start crossing things off that list it will become less stressful.
Post # 3
Deep slow breaths. Breathing feels so much better than not breathing.
For the favors maybe you could do something simple, like an edible favor? Cookies or something? People generally like cookies and it can be done cheaply. My brother and his wife had a fill your own candy bag buffet for their favors.
For the bridal party gifts I don’t know about a price limit, but I do like the advice I have seen over and over on here about giving gifts that are personal. Even if its just in their favorite color or flavor, etc. It’s nice to be considered as an individual.
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA
Forget the favors, just in general. There are tons of threads about how they’re often not worth. First item to cut from the budget.
Calm down, and try to heed some of the very reasonable advice you’ve been given … it WILL be fine, and the marriage IS the more important thing than the wedding. Yes, the former is very expensive and memorable, but if you start off unmarried in the morning and finish off married at the end of the day, the wedding was a success. Don’t pressure yourself for it to be perfect – that alone is perfect enough to start a relationship.
Post # 5
Whoa. Sit down and have a glass of wine or two.
How far along are you into the planning process and when is the wedding day? I’m sure you have time to figure some of these things out. You don’t need favors and there is no price min or max to spend on BMs. The only thing I would say is DO make sure you write all of your BMs a thank you note for standing beside you on your wedding day!
There’s a lot going on in this post. I’m not sure what’s going on with your parents but that sounds rough. As for your budget and everything you have to do, it helps to sit down, write out a budget, and make a check list. As you start checking things off of your list, you might begin to feel some relief. Also, make sure there’s a little bit of extra wiggle room in your budget for any last minute unanticipated expenses!
Everything will be okay!