Post # 1
This may just be a bout of “everything is finally planned!!! Something must go wrong” but I’m having the WIERDEST issues with one of my bridesmaids on the idiotic topic of shoes.
I asked for grey shoes. It is a fall wedding, the dresses are navy-ish, the other wedding color is grey. I sent that request *today*. Maid texts to ask do I really mean grey, or is silver ok. I said I prefer nothing sparkley (not really in the tone of the wedding) and she sends two pairs of shoes– a grey patent, and a silvery glittery sandal. I tell her I prefer the grey patent, she says she wants to buy the silver because it’s cheaper. I suggest that she hold off (the wedding is 6 months away) and got a very passive aggressive response.
This is the same bridesmaid I compromised on dress styles for…but recently I feel like she is making pretty constant demands…shower in one location over another, requesting specific seating during the wedding…I texted her back to say that I’m sure we can come to a good compromise…but I’m starting to wonder why it is I’m compromising all the time…
Post # 3
I don’t know about paranoid, but I think something is definately up. Just think about it this way, it is YOUR wedding and if you want grey shoes, then she should wear grey shoes. You wouldn’t ask her to compromise for her wedding, so she shouldn’t ask you to do it for yours. And you’re right, silver would look kind of strange with navy if everyone else has grey.
Post # 4
you are not paranoid. She has 6 months to find cheaper grey shoes, no big deal. Dont compromse, she should just get the right shoes.
Post # 5
I cant stand Maids like this. Who died and made you the bride!? Unless you have feet problems, or are 9 months pregnant at my wedding…STFU and deal with it for ONE DAY!
Stick to your guns girl! =) It’ll be worth the outcome because it will be your way!
Post # 6
I think you are compromising bc she knows you will she is pushing you and you need to put your foot down for your sanity and for the vision of your wedding.
Post # 7
Maybe you can offer to pay the price difference between the two styles – that way she’ll have no excuse for any more drama.
Post # 8
She called me after the fact to say that I am being annoying. And too specific. Because I liked one of two shoes SHE chose? She was also complaining because the other one had a heel– it didn’t show up in the picture she sent which I assumed was an “option”.