Post # 1
Yesterday I had lunch with one of my BMs and she asked about a bridal shower and who’s throwing it. I honestly never thought about having one and since two of my BMs are in different states and one lives four hours away, I assumed I wouldn’t have one and I was OK with that. I don’t even know what they’re all about (the two I was invited to I couldn’t attend due to being out of town). My Bridesmaid or Best Man was surprised that I hadn’t given thought to a party, but tI said, “Well, no one offered to throw it and I wouldn’t host it myself, so I honestly have no response.” I wouldn’t ask any of my BMs to host one for me, because I don’t even know who would come and why I’d be having one!
Exactly what is the point of having a bridal shower? Who throws it? Who pays for it? What are the perks? Will I be missing out on something great if I don’t have one?
Post # 3
Does she mean a shower? Yes, the bride cannot throw her own shower.
Some brides choose to host a luncheon for her bridesmaids a day or two before the wedding, as a thank you. She could be referring to something like this. You are under no obligation to host something like this, however.
Post # 4
The bridal shower is a party usually hosted by the BMs where other women you are close to come to play games and you open gifts.
I do not enjoy going to them and refused to have one.
Post # 5
The purpose of a bridal shower is to shower the bride with gifts to prepare her for married life. It is most generally thrown by her bridal party, and the planning is done by the Maid/Matron of Honor. The bride does not throw her own shower because it is considered distasteful to throw a shower/party in one’s own honor.
Traditionally, the bride’s family members didn’t throw these showers, but these days there is a little more leniency. If you have an aunt or cousin who wants to host one, that is acceptable.
I’m not having a bridal shower since I own my own home and don’t really need a lot of “stuff”. We did a small registry for the wedding though.
Post # 6
The point of the bridal shower is to “shower” the bride with gifts [usually] off her registry.
Post # 7
I am so looking forward to my shower. My bm’s are hosting it. And it is to ‘shower’ the bride in her new life of marriage. Usually brides register for gift (but you don’t have to) and most have games. There is food and refreshments and then the bride opens her gifts, where guests ooh and ahh and take pics. I love showers. LOL
Post # 8
I was offered a bridal shower by two different people (and counting?) and I don’t even have a bridal party. I didn’t want one though because I didn’t see the point. The people offering to throw them aren’t necessarily incredibly wealthy and I’m fairly certain they’re planning on buying one of the nicer, pricier items off the registry already. As such, I didn’t want to be a financial drain on them. I would rather people spend a little more on a wedding gift than split the amount between the shower and the wedding, candidly speaking. I also didn’t want people who are not as financially well-off to have to buy two gifts as well, even if they were two fairly inexpensive things off the registry.
Plus, traditionally bridal showers existed because the bride and grooom never lived together until after marriage and so she needed all the household items. The shower is literally to shower the bride with all the stuff she will need to start her new life. Usually, back then, people gave money at the wedding so the only time to “get stuff” was at the shower. We already live together and own a full house of stuff, so we are good to go. 🙂