Post # 1
I’ve been feel overwhelmed lately with the things I need to get done for my September 30th wedding. I only have 3 BM’s, but they have all expressed that they will help me with anything I need, but I don’t know what to assign them, really. My main issue is my Maid/Matron of Honor, which happens to be my sister, that doesn’t seem to be interested in wedding planning. My BM’s have taken iniative when it comes to planning my bachelorette party and stuff, because my Maid/Matron of Honor hasn’t been doing much of anything in that department. I’ve been sad because neither my mom or sister have taken interest in the wedding planning, like you would expect most female relatives to do, ya know? And I don’t want to be all “me, me, me..” or anything, but I am having problems getting them involved. How do I get my Maid/Matron of Honor to start helping more without being a jerk? And what tasks did you trust your BM’s with? They seem eager to help, but I am not one to really ask for help..
YIKES!!! Sorry for the rant
Post # 3
Involved in what?
My Maid/Matron of Honor, my sister, didnt help with the planning other than the shower/bachelorette she threw. It really isnt the BMs job to help you plan at all. If they want to great, but I dont think there is anything you can do to get her to help more. We would sometimes talk about the wedding, but she didnt really do much other than send me an occasional link. You have to be careful that all conversations dont become about the wedding because they will get “wedding’d out” and they will be posting on a board somewhere “I am an Maid/Matron of Honor and the bride wont talk about anything else but her wedding and wants me to help with everything, but I dont have the time and I ….”
If the other BMs need her help in planning a shower, then they need to talk to her. Not you.
Post # 4
You can involve them with any DIY’s you are making. Invite the girls over for an evening of crafting and wine.
Post # 5
My Maid/Matron of Honor is my sister too. I think for her it’s because she’s so young. She is in that it’s all about me phase…”it’s her summer before college”. Well, it’s also the summer before my wedding. She has helped a little, but mostly she just sits there and when I ask her for advice she hates everything I pick out. It gets old, but end the end I go with what I want. My 2 Bridesmaid or Best Man are amazing. One is younger than my Maid/Matron of Honor, and the other is my close cousin. She is constantly texting me asking for things to do. While the Bridesmaid or Best Man don’t typically help with planning, I am thankful for her. But I agree with other post, get them involved in anything DIY!
Post # 6
@ThreeMeers: I would like her to be involved in planning the shower/bachelorette party but according to my BM’s, she hasn’t helped them at all.. So they are really doing all the leg work with all the planning, and I don’t think that’s fair to them.
@julies1949: I think I will probably have them over once I decide 100% what I want to do for my centerpieces, programs, etc..
@sjs: Luckily my BM’s have been VERY helpful with ideas, helping me not to stress so much, etc.. I just wish my Maid/Matron of Honor would give them a hand with things at least because so far she hasn’t helped them in planning :-
Majority of the big decisions have been made already, by and the future hubby
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Don’t hesitate to ask other friends to help out- another girl friend helped me with the program fans for 3 hours one afternoon. It can be easy for bridesmaids to get burn out, and I had several friends offer to help-take people up on it!
Post # 8
@rebwana: I haven’t actually asked for anyone’s help with anything yet, until I figure out exactly which DIY projects I wanna tackle. Even then, I may not have them do that.. More than anything, I want them to work together on any shower/bachelorette party stuff that’s being planned