Bridal Party Problems

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
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Busy bee

So, no bridal party is going to be absolutely perfect.  My MOH lives in TN (I live in PA) and she has no job, so it’s hard for her to find the money to come visit.  BM #1 lives in Prague and will be flying in to the states 1 month before the wedding, so she couldn’t come dress shopping or come to showers or help plan or anything.  BM#2 is still in college in the middle of nowhere, though she did come to a shower.

These are the women I want beside me when I  get married, and I really couldn’t ask for anything more than that.

I really think it depends on what your expectations are.  If you want 7 bridesmaids and you expect them to  attend every dress shopping session, stay at your house until 3 a.m. filling favor boxes, go to every shower regardless of where it is,  plan a bachelorette party, and always get along perfectly, YES there will be drama.  If you ask them to attend only the events they can, and just be there for the rehearsal and wedding, you’ll encounter a lot less.

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10356 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I had problems with my sister who was a BM.  There was other stuff going on and I was really at a point where I wish I never had a bridal party.

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I was in a wedding with no MOH–my friend just didn’t want to pick a favorite.  So it was awkward when it came time to plan the bachelorette party–no one stepped up to do it, and then when one did, she was upset because she had to do so much extra work, and others were wondering, who put her in charge?  In situations like that, it seems like it would be best for the bride to pick the one in charge (whether it’s the MOH or not).  

In the same wedding, there were a couple of personality conflicts (there were many BMs, so it was bound to happen).  But I think we always just put it aside because we wanted our friend’s day to be special.   

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Newbee

I wish that I had picked one person to stand up next to me. I do not have any sisters and it would have made life less complicated to have one person…Regardless, we had a beautiful wedding and everyone involved had/has held a very special place in my life–this, too me, is the most important thing.

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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2009

I agree that expectations are key. But I also think that, even with realistic expectations, having a wedding party can be a rocky road. :) If I was to do it again, I would just have one person stand with me as my maid of honor instead of having multiple bridesmaids.

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