Post # 1
Ok, we have agreed on 5 maybe 6 attendants on each side and I already have 4 people that I am very close with and need to be in my bridal party. However my Fiance has 3 thats right 3 sisters and wants them all to be in the wedding. His family is very close and I understand why he wants them in the wedding but they are not as close to me. How do I pick one or two of them without offending the rest?
Another question…one of my (possible) bridesmaids is having her wedding a month before mine and I am in her bridal party too… I have no asked her yet…is it appropriate to have her in mine, even though I am in hers, becuase of the short time between the two weddings?
Post # 3
If I were you, I would just include all three sisters and have the bridal party be uneven, just double up girls to one guy. It’ll save you the headache and possibly a fight between you and Fiance and/or his family. Although you may not be that close with the sisters now, they’ll be your family for the rest of your life, so it might be best not leave anyone out to avoid any awkwardness.
I don’t see a problem with asking your friend to be in your wedding eventhough she’s geting married a month before you. My sister and her friend got married a month apart and were in each other’s weddings. Yes, it’s not ideal, but it’s better than leaving someone out or being left out. I just wouldn’t expect her to be as involved as your other BMs, understandibly so, with her own wedding plans and honeymoon before your wedding.
Post # 4
I completely agree with middleschoolsweethearts! I would ask all three sisters. All four of my siblings and both of FI’s siblings are in the wedding party. Both of my brothers have also been married and I would have been pretty sad not to be included in their weddings.
Ultimately, if you don’t want to have seven bridesmaids, don’t ask any of the sisters. I don’t think there is ANY way to ask one or two of them without offending the one(s) left out.
And there’s no problem asking you friend to be in your wedding evenw ith her wedding a month before yours. My younger sister and I are getting married two WEEKS apart. We help each other all we can, keeping in mind that there’s a lot for both of us to get done.
Post # 5
I say make the three sisters into grooms maids, wear dresses matching the tuxes/suits/outfits of the grooms men, and have them act as 3 of your FI’s wedding party members- standing up on his side instead of yours. The way I view it, gender shouldn’t matter- the members of your party are the ones that are closest to YOU- so since they are closer to him than you, they should be standing next to him.
Also- I see no problem whatsoever with asking your friend to be in your wedding, no matter when she’s getting married. The only problem I would ever see with that would be if you guys’s wedding were closer in time and she was going to be gone on a honeymoon. But with no honeymoon in the way, I say go right ahead! 🙂
(Extra information- my two sisters are MOHs, my three best friends are going to be my bridesmaids. My Fiance has his best friend as his best man, his brother and brother-in-law as groomsmen, another friend as another groomsmen, and is thinking of asking his female cousin to be his grooms maid. His sister-in-law and his sister will be our ushers)
Post # 6
Either ask all three and have uneven sides (trust me, it won’t look bad) or explain to your Fiance that you’re not close to them and don’t ask any.