- 5 years ago
- Wedding: March 2013
So, I was so happy to be engaged and before it happened, I knew my sister would be my MOH and my sister in law a BM. Nothing else was a 100%. Oh, and my 16 yr old neice said a year prior in a joking manner “I better be a bridesmaid!” – so why not? I asked two more girlfriends, and felt “bad” if I didnt ask two others, so I did. I feel guilty for thinking this way, but I felt almost selfish if I didnt. I didnt want to hurt or offend and I didnt think having “too many” would be an issue. And, my sister, my MOH, “suggested” that my 9 yr old be a Junior BM since her two sisters would be flower girls, and I didnt want to leave her out, so she’s a Junior BM now. If you havent lost count that’s 2 Flower girls (totally fine with that), my MOH, and now my dilemma – 6 BM AND a Junior BM. I feel overwhelmed and would honestly, really prefer to have a smaller wedding party and with those closest to me. God, I feel horrible for thinking this way but I cant help it and Im not sure that there’s anything I can do now after the fact. To make the situation a little uneasy, one of my girls (one of my very very close friends) explained that she might not be able to be a BM because of the expense involved (due to family financial stress and buying a house). Advice please on what I can or should do? (I dont really believe I can do anything now at this point like “uninviting” someone – but Im open to ideas).
PS – My fiance has his BM (his brother) and 5 GM.